RE: WE SHOULD ALL BE FEMINISTS (A book by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie).
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This is a beautiful reasoning to be honest. It's rather sad how feminism has been painted as the opposite of what it actually is due to ignorance. And it's not just from men, even some women use feminism to defend their unjust rudeness. I love how she emphasized that being a feminist does not make you any less of a woman, ofcourse one can still enjoy being girly, it is just not for validation from men or anyone as a matter of fact.
I have always liked to stay away from calling myself a feminist because it is such a controversial title. And while I still won't call myself one, I do enjoy topics of discussions around femininity. While some people believe "what a man can do, a woman can do better", I believe women should allow themselves be women, but gender (the fact that you're a woman) should neither be a limiting nor a determining factor to a woman's goals, mission, vision, passion or success. A proper feminist understands that every human being, both male and female have both masculine and feminine traits, finding a balance and leaning more naturally to express one is highly important.
I'll definitely check out this book. Thank you for sharing this.
Yes.
The most valuable takeaway from that book is that I am a woman and I am strong in womanhood. It's sad that some of her experiences there, I experienced them. Especially with the part when there is no male. It's only been I and my mom for a long time and we have had to deal with outright disrespect from uneducated men and women. Especially me, as the daughter of a single mom. With the way society has made us look like things from hell, it's a wonder why many young girls from single moms put on amours that can be perceived as rudeness. People just try to make a monster out of you, doesn't mean you should be. So you're right, even if their attitude is unjustified (I'm talking about the people who use feminism unjustly), their pain is valid.
I'm so sorry about your experience. Society can indeed be unjustly judgmental towards what they have deemed unacceptable. I wonder who actually created those standards. Absolutely ridiculous!
I'm so glad you have allowed it shaped your thought pattern into this amazing woman you are.