RE: Relationship Talk: Privacy Versus Transparency
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I admire your style...you know. And somehow I agree with your opinion but that's only at 20%.
I'm at the strong defense of transparency especially in romantic realationships, sensitive matters are tend to be discussed for future dealings. And that's why I would always say.. “The past” too is important.
With your past girl, I don't know how she came at you, or the turn off you pin pointed, however I must say.. she was a turn off and you never loved her to a point of accepting her for her.
Here’s the thing,, in my opinion.. A secret is a secret because it shouldn’t be told to anyone.
And I must bring out a (shameful) past talk about myself.. something must have resulted to it.
That’s to say,, I wouldn’t just start talking out of the blues in unrelated matters to my secret. However, if it calls for it.. being completely honest is a total build up all together.
And in most cases, the initimacy between couples is what makes the difference in this case, because at last, not everyone gets that click.
My personality isn’t one to bottle up things about myself, and that’s why.. When it’s about romantic relationship.. I wouldn’t even bid an eye to a partner who I don’t find that click with.. because at the end,, if you don’t hear a deep truth from me then be sure that I don’t love you at all and that’s how it works for me.
Thanks for this awesome feedback. You've straightened a lot on the matter and I believe you are sure to say certain things only when you believe it's safe.
This particular girl from my story is totally different. She carried the advise of openness too serious. She can talk for 1 hour without a full stop and her number of relationships can tell the problem. Sometimes I wish I can tell her her talking is a turn off for guys but I don't know how she'll take it. More than the secrets, the talking was what made it all bad
Lol..okay
I get It now. In all everyone knows what works best for them. Hopefully she finds someone patience enough to make her realize that.