RE: An All-time Low For Me
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Nicely written @jhymi.
In this instance I would not be so hard on yourself, because you have the ability of self reflection and self accountability, which is an ever increasingly rare trait in this world.
Being able to reflect like this with a desire to improve what you identify as negative character traits in yourself is a very great quality to have.
It sounds like you and your friend maintain aspects of a healthy friendship with good boundaries since you were able to rekindle things without resentments being held.
When analyzing the self this way, I find it good to examine triggers. If I can identify what triggered me, I can think in ways which offer me a change in perspective and also behavioral and psychological growth for the better.
It could be perhaps that the trigger was that you felt your friend did not believe in you, and this gave way to a memory of when your good advice about her relationship was not heeded. That's a recipe for such a statement to roll off the tongue.
Now that you've reflected on this experience, you will definitely improve with how you handle this type of thing in the future :)
I guess I'd never looked at it that way. I mean I knew I was wrong but it was the fact that I'd been triggered by her lack of faith in me. My brain immediately brought to light something that I thought was in the recesses of my mind and I said it.
I still feel like I should have stifled that urge but talking about it now and admitting my faults is the final step I've taken to forgive myself about it since according to her, she'd forgiven me long ago. So I'm doubly glad now that I talked about it.
Thank you for these thoughtful words @futuremind. Maybe if you ever wanted a side job, perhaps becoming a therapist?🙃
You definitely have a healthy way of thinking in my opinion.
I'm really happy my perspective resonates with you in a positive way and helps add some perspective.
Feelings of guilt or shame for acting on a trigger just means you're a loving person with a big heart who's empathetic and in touch with the feelings of others.
I've never thought about being a therapist before, but I do naturally like to help others with things I've experienced as well.
If I had a dollar for every time I said something to someone that I regretted later on, I'd probably be able to take an early retirement 😄
I'm really grateful that you see it that way. That you see me in that light. It means a lot.
And please, by all means, we just gotta speak our mind sometimes😄. It's been so wonderful talking with you, dear.🤗