The Prolonged Gnaw

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Hi fellow Hiveians,

Today I wanted to talk about a bit of relief to something that has been gnawing at me for a while!

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The Prolonged Gnaw

There is sometimes a considerable amount of relief with something finally happening!

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I've had a situation that started a few years ago. One of my very first projects where I had the training wheels taken off, it went mostly okay but there was just something that didn't sit well with me on it, and I knew it was there but it was one of those situations that you can't say anything about it. It wasn't life or death or anything, that's for sure but it was just a gnawing feeling.

One of my leaders messaged me the other day to see if we could chat for a few minutes. It was nothing I was worried about, as we are a tight knit group and when he said the name we were going to be talking about, my heart sank a little bit, going to be honest! LOL

We were getting into the conversation though, and it was actually the best situation for all parties. They decided they were going to move on! Boy was that a relief.. because they were never happy, and they are one of those groups of people who are never going to be happy unless you wipe their ass for them and then thank them for the chance to wipe their ass. Some of them were nice enough.. but they were just not a good fit for what our model was and they were never going to accept it.

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I think this was definitely one of the best conversations that I had, because as I said this was a weight on my shoulders for a pretty long time at this point. I didn't know how the whole thing was going to go, and if I would somehow get fired at the end of the day because of it hahaha. I know that last bit is unlikely, but you never know these days!

It got me thinking though, because it was a situation that I didn't handle the way it should have been. Those ones are always tough, because you know you made mistakes and you are trying to do better for everyone else in the future but at the same time, it is something that gnaws at you for a long time. Hell, even after they are gone I know that whole thing will still have an impact on me. I think it's just the type of person I am where I care a lot about the work that I do and the services that I deliver. I don't want things to go wrong, naturally!

In some ways I wouldn't mind being a fly on the wall to listen to the conversation.. but I know that I would be pretty stressed about the whole thing so I for sure won't be around for that to happen lol. I am not opposed to difficult situations, but it hits a different nerve when it was a difficult situation that I wasn't able to rectify in one way or the other.

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What about you, have you had situations that have come up at work where it didn't go well, but it stuck with you and bothered you? What happened? Let me know in the comments!

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Absolutely
Sometimes dealing with unhappy people no matter how hard we try, feels like carrying a heavy weight on your shoulders.

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I've been learning that I can't make everyone happy and I just need to do what is best for the organization. There is always going to be someone who doesn't like it or struggles with it. That doesn't mean it's a bad idea or solution.

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Yeah that's one of the things that thankfully I learned several years ago, and it really kicked in with the company I started to work for. I was one who stood their ground more and more, within reason of course, as I got more professional experience. Then when I came over to the side I am now, it really kicked in lol you can't please everyone, even when you bend over backwards. You just gotta roll with the punches and do the best you can!

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I'm actually reading a really good book right now that I plan on writing a post about later. It deals with some of this stuff.

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Oh gawd, I can imagine the person you're talking about 😩 The worst kind of people to deal with... But as you said, at least he saw the light and realized it's time to move on!!

And I can emphasize with how you handled things. Sometimes when someone finally brings up a topic that has been bothering me, I'll indulge and overshare. Sometimes I have troubles identifying whether or not the person I'm talking to can even be reliable to keep my words private 😬 Anyway, this is just the impression I got from your post...

Also, love the images that you included, the sunset one is gorgeous! 😍 And for whatever reason, I saw the opening picture and it immediately reminded me of this photo I took years prior. Yours just has more autumn in it 😄😄

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That's a wonderful photo, thank you for sharing it with me :D I love it!

Yeah the people I'm talking about were decent people.. but you could NOT please them no matter how hard you tried. I knew that they were never going to be happy after having worked with them for several years at this point so I'm really glad they've just moved on lol

I do sometimes tend to have a bit of overshare in me! It's not ideal that's for sure hahaha

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It's always tricky or minimally sensitive to talk about work stuff online for me, I think we have all had some similar experiences. These days, I have learnt not to let work stresses or incidents affect me too much, especially after working hours. Cheers!

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Yeah I try to intentionally be vague about it, in hopes that it could never be tied back to me. There are a lot of things I am leaving out here lol but I think the gist of the story comes across!

It is very difficult when work stress affects us after we sign off, especially into the evening. A little while after work is understandable but if you're eating dinner and it stirs up, that's not good!

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That’s great to hear you’ve finally found relief from such a long standing situation! It’s amazing how much of a weight can lift when things align for the best outcome it shows your dedication and growth in handling tough situations

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Yeah that's for sure! It has been something that has weighed on me for a long time but it was a really big relief to hear this!

It also for sure taught me several things about myself and how I manage things which is good!

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I can imagine how much of a relief that must have been! It’s great that you were able to take something positive from the experience, too. That sounds like a meaningful realization. What’s one of the biggest things you’ve learned about yourself through this?

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