KNOWING MY WORTH
When it comes to accepting change, even as a minimalist I struggle so much with it but then the thing is, I always crave for a transformation. I know that I’m not exactly doing well in different areas of my life and daily, I actually do see the need for a transformation. But how much effort do I put into this? I don’t think I put in enough effort towards the transformation that I seek. Back in 2021, I was in a relationship with this person, he loved me and I think I loved him too but at some point there was a great shift in things we both believed and accepted. At that point, I struggled with a lot of emotional baggage and I knew it was time to let go.
My life was going to take a new turn and even though I know it will be hard at first, I still took that bold step to opt in for a transformation and it was only a matter of time and I was glad I did. Most times, I struggle with my transformations because it often brings be pain at first but then I remember gold and how it is made into something that beautiful and I just accept the fact that whenever there is a need for me to change anything, it is only going to build me, make me stronger and beautiful but it sometimes comes with pain.
If there is one thing I believe needs transformation in my life, it will be learning to know my worth. I’ll be vulnerable here and say things as it is. All my life, I have always felt awkward whenever people say good things about me or praise me for doing something well (I was quite a minimalist in this regard). I somehow always preferred they don’t. But then, I have come to realize that it shouldn’t make me feel that way at all. Instead I should be grateful and keep being myself and doing well in the things I engage with. One reason I have come to understand why I’m like that is because I’m scared of me over relying on people’s validation.
It’s a good reason and that is why I struggle but then, I have also come to see that it is affecting the way I see myself too. I need a transformed mind. I need to acknowledge that I have done well and know just how much I worth. Someone once said that we will be valued based on how we value ourselves. I have been doing better but I always see myself running back to my rabbit hole even without knowing it. At this point, it’s a bit somehow that I have people that know my worth more than I do and I want that to change.
I don’t know if anyone can relate with this but it will be helpful to get your advise on how you were able to make a transformation for yourself because right now, I’m still yet to know how to make mine. But I do know that I need a renewed mindset towards receiving compliments and also knowing my worth as a person.
This is my entry to the transformational Thursday. Thank you for reading through. ❤️
Growth is one of the most important thing in life, and sometimes these characteristics are not our fault, they are actually temperamental. But we have to keep fighting towards making ourselves better, and that is what we must do. I also have many things I working on, and sometimes I find myself going back to the things I thought I have left behind, but we must keep fighting.
You’re right. Working for a change is not easy but that doesn’t mean we should give up.
Thank you for stopping by.
Every transformation isn't easy at first, the fear of what's going to happen next prevents many of us from embracing change but this concern lasts just for a short period that's if the change is a positive one.
It's fine not to rely on self validation but taking the time to appreciate yourself is a good thing. We all know when we do good or bad and when it's good, take some time to appreciate yourself. It's one of my self care routines.
Thank you, buddy.
Let’s see how it goes and how this change will come eventually.
You have done well. And this is just the best you can give to your self. Life unfolds and most times we get to learn from our own experiences and mistakes. But that shouldn’t stop us for knowing our own worth. Great work
Thank you, Abdul. I never knew you can speak so softly. 🌝
Yes, I can deeply relate, but the first thing you have to know is that being appreciated is not the same as being proud. We deserve every appreciation that comes our way, remember we will also be blamed if we do things wrong. So, when you are commended for anything, don't run away from it. Take the commendation and give the glory to God.
You’re right. Thank you so much for reminding me this, Jane. ❤️
Truly speaking, when you know your worth no body can cheat you
True. 🤲
Change is always hard, but a transformation awaits those who start. Being secure in yourself shows strong character..
You’re right, Valorian. Thank you for your contribution. 🥰
!PIMP