Don't force yourself to fit in.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. One thing we all need to learn as individuals is how to stay true to ourselves and not to keep changing who we are just to fit in and be accepted into a circle. One thing I believe is that if the circle does not accept you for who you are, then the circle is not for you. Always dare to stand out; don't force yourself to fit into a circle that requires you to change or lose pieces of you in order to be accepted or for you to fit in. Any circle that requests so much from you before they let you in should be avoided, as it will only drain you along the line.

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I watched a skit online where the guy was doing quite well for himself; he cut off his friends that were not doing so well and wanted to be friends with a guy that lives in his estate, but the guy in his estate was way richer and told him the first criteria was to own a car, and he rushed to get one. Whenever they go out, they ask him to pay and promise to pay back later, but they never do. One day they went out, and the bill was about 500k, and they asked the same thing of him, and at this point he stood up and was about to leave when his new friends asked him where he was going. He said, "I miss my old clique; they will never do these things to me, and besides, we cut our coat according to our size."

It was quite funny how he responded in the end, but there was a message there I believe many people will fail to get: don't force yourself into a circle that is not meant for you, and don't change your shape or character to fit in. Those that are meant for you will accept you without giving you conditions as long as you are well-behaved and are sure that if you were them, you'd be able to tolerate the character that comes with you. Then why force yourself in?

One thing is certain: every human being loves that sense of belonging, that feeling that these are my people and I am their person comes with a tingling feeling, but the truth is that this happens naturally and on its own; it happens even before you know it. Forcing yourself to fit in or be accepted will not give you that feeling; they will only show you that you do not belong here, and with time you will have to face the harsh truth.

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For me, I let things like belonging and being accepted play out naturally, not forced. Just sit back and watch people accept you for who you are. When it is not forced, they accept everything that comes with you, your vibe, your energy, your character, everything about you is accepted, and with no conditions given.