A Quarrel

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Not quite long after the day broke, a neighbor of mine came out of her apartment in the public compound where many people including I lived in. She came out to the center of the compound and started yelling so widely. My family and I still laid calm in our apartment trying to understand why yelling was been done and as early as this morning too. I believed too that other neighbors still laid low to find out what the problem really was. Our compound does not usually breed fights or quarrels so we wanted to know who provoked Mama Ebuka this early morning.

Soon enough we came to discover that a neighbor of ours have mistakenly and unknowingly taken in her clothes which she spread on the lines in the compound. She kept on yelling insisting that if her clothes were not provided or replaced that she would arrest each and every one of us living in that compound. Everywhere was still calm as nobody came out to calm her or to give her the clothes. But then, my Dad came out of our apartment and went to see Mama Ebuka.

My Dad is known as one of the respected people in the neighborhood and having that status there helped him to get to Mama Ebuka to try to fully understand what is real issue was. Few other neighbors came out of their shell on seeing my dad with the woman. They all gathered around trying to know how to help Mama Ebuka to get the solution of her problem. She explained to them how she had spread her clothes and by evening, she couldn’t find them anymore. She called names of people that she feels must have taken it in, maybe due to some pre-existing issues she has with them.

My Dad with some few others went to the apartment of those that she had mentioned and being on the quest to make peace and to achieve the goal of retrieving her clothes, they called them out and asked them how they took their own clothes in. The first was Mama Chinedu and when she was asked she replied “Do you think I am a Thief? Don’t I have clothes of my own?” she said those and went back into her apartment. They moved next to Mummy Chiboy. “Oh, I really do not know anything about the clothes that were spread on the lines” she replied when she was asked “But my son might know because I think he took some clothes in yesterday”. She called Chiboy and he searched and Lo and Behold, he brought out all those clothes that Mama Ebuka was actually looking for.

On seeing this, Mummy Chiboy felt remorseful and shocked not even knowing that it was her son that caused the yelling this morning. She reprimanded her son immediately and begged the peace makers crew to go with them in order to Apologize to Mama Ebuka for the inconveniences that her son caused her. She kept counseling her son before leaving her verandah to go and make peace with Mama Ebuka.

As she got to the compound, she almost knelt down begging Mama Ebuka to forgive her and her only son for misplacing her clothes, she really begged a lot but Mama Ebuka kept ranting arounding trying to lay a cause on them, but then my Dad held Mama Ebuka and told her the benefits of Forgiving and also reminding her that we are humans and can also err to our fellow humans as well. She finally accepted her plea and forgave her and her son. Everyone was happy as they both hugged each othr and smiled too.

I watched the whole show through the window and I really learned a lot from it too.

LESSONS

1.   **Do not be quick to Conclude without hearing all the facts:**  My Dad didn’t conclude that Mama Ebuka was being too dramatic or whatsoever but he tried to understand and help her out.
   

2.   **Be willing to forgive at all cost:** Forgiving has a lot of benefits and we gain them through forgiving.
   

3.   ** Take the initiative to Say Sorry:** Mummy Chiboy was eager to take the initiative to apologize even though she wasn’t really the one that erred Mama Ebuka.
   

These and many more are lessons I learned from the Quarrel this morning. I hope you too derived some interesting lessons from the Quarrel! Did you?