WHEN WE ARE WRONG
When I’m wrong…
When I’m wrong I try to hide.
When I’m wrong I try to make excuses.
When I’m wrong I want others to understand.
When I’m wrong I get pissed that people easily forget all the times I wasn’t.
When I’m wrong I’m frustrated thinking that I have the wrong people around me because they don’t seem to understand.
When I’m wrong I always want to justify my actions.
When you are wrong…
When you are wrong I want to tell it to your face and make sure you can’t hide from it.
When you are wrong I tell you to stop trying to make excuses and just accept your wrong.
When you are wrong I don’t think you deserve that understanding, after all you’re wrong.
When you are wrong I find it funny that you get pissed. You are the one wrong here!
When you are wrong I try to make you feel more frustrated.
When you are wrong I see you as being too defensive and you should probably stop trying to defend yourself.
Being wrong is one thing that we as humans hate to admit to. But then, depending on who is wrong, the narrative changes. When we are the ones wrong, we seek for forgiveness but when it’s the next person, we think they don’t deserve that forgiveness. I can’t even say how much I like the passage of the Bible that says “do unto others what you want them to do to you”. It’s as simple as that. People make mistakes and most times we go too extreme trying to make them see where they have fallen while other times we forgive them even without making them understand what wrong they have done.
As humans, we don’t have each other for no reason. We all have a role to play towards one another. When I’m wrong, it’s fine that I should be corrected and advised whether or not it hurts. I might be scolded in a stern way but that’s even to show me how much that person cares for me. It even becomes scary these days when deep down I know I did something wrong and everyone around applauds me for doing that. Over time I have learnt to appreciate corrections better. And also, it’s totally good that I do that also to others if truly I love or care for them.
Trying to cover up my mistakes just because you don’t want me to be mad at you doesn’t mean you love me. Most times it’s even the other way around. If you love me, when you see me walking into danger, you will call me back and not encourage me to keep going. It’s fine to get things wrong. But it’s not fine when you don’t have anyone around you to be bold enough to tell you that you are wrong and it’s also not fine when you can’t tell others when they are wrong just because you want to gain favors from them or you don’t want them to stop being friends with you.
I make mistakes and in as much as I won’t want to be wrong, whenever you see me doing things the wrong way, please always tell me. Whenever you see being an hypocrite, draw my attention to it. Sometimes it’s hard to do what we say but with the right person around us, we can do the right things.
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I love the phrase from the Bible:
"Let he is without sin cast the first stone"
The weird thing is, I'm not religious but I went to religious schools -- I know a lot about the parables and the stories, etc.
There are some amazing teachings in the bible -- and some um, not so great lol.
Although, that phrase, as old as it is, is important.
Remember the things you've done in the past before you seek to judge others -- it's one of my deepest moral codes written into law in my head haha.
Yes, we absolutely all hate to be wrong. The brain will do anything to convince you that it's not you who is wrong. Because the Brain hates to feel negative.
A workaround I've found to this is that everyone's wrong at times -- forgive them -- the true test of a person is if they are working to correct it.
Yes. Yes! You see what you concluded with? That’s what I think too and what I believe is the best. As long as people are putting in the effort to do better, they are indeed repentant.
I’d love you to share some of the not so great teachings you’ve read in the Bible privately if you don’t mind. 🥰
We learn everyday.
Everyone make mistakes but what makes one matured is owning up to the fact that you or I am wrong, must people even when they know that they are wrong they refuse to accept defeat.
I love the way you composed this content.
That’s right, ma’am.
We know when we are wrong and trying to deny it will only make us look the bad we don’t want to look.
Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts too. ❤️
!LADY
Exactly, your welcome
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This is one of the best posts I’ve read in a long time. I’m sharing it across my socials. It’s beautiful!
Aww! Thank you so much, Sam. ❤️
This post remember to me those rap days when we spit the truth no matter what happen next, great way to explain it sir.
GoodOne ✊🏻⚡
Rappers spit a lot of truths.
I’m glad this piece reminded of your awesomeness. 🥰
Thank you for reading through and for your thoughtful comment. ❤️
I can’t even begin to say how reflective this post is. You hit the nail on the head, Hope. It’s so introspective to many ways we deal with wrongs. Spoke to me most especially.
Writing this was quite a challenge at first. My words weren’t articulated enough (at least that was what I felt writing it). I’m glad you enjoyed it regardless, Rara.
Thank you for your comment. 🌹
This is deep Hope, really deep. I mean you literally got it right from both perspectives. I think this is something we can all relate to because everyone has been on either side of this two faced coin at one point in time or the other.
You know what, you're absolutely correct. It's scary if the people around you aren't bold enough to correct you, it's scary when the people around you applaud you when you do something wrong, it's scary cause it just means you're not worth their time and you can do whatever the hell you want. Honestly, there's not one thing you wrote here that I don't agree with because just like you, I'd rather have people who can call me out on my BS and won't get mad when I do the same....I want to be with the right people who come what may, I know I can count on, people who'd have my back whenever, someone I know that can set me straight if it comes down to that.
I really did enjoy reading this💚
Yay!
I have actually seen people hiding the truth from those they love because they are scared that if they point their wrongs to them they might walk away and that is what they don’t want do they rather just allow them do whatever it is that pleases them.
These days, the moment I do that, I just know that I don’t like the person at all. I’d rather correct a wrong and be wrong for doing that than just watch those I love make mistakes over and over.
Thank you so much for reading through and also leaving your thoughts. ❤️
I honestly couldn't agree more. You're welcome 💚
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“do unto others what you want them to do to you”.
eh isnt it " DONT do unto others what you DONT want them to do on you" ?
the other way around would be excpectation and calculation right ?
unless we talk about reciprocal respect of course.
we come to a point in life where, when someone doesnt want to meet its own demons and have a talk, there is nothing we can do about it and trying to change them wont do it.
so instead of fighting, crying and blahblahting nonsense to someone who has not face its shadows , its childhood traumas sometimes, then there is no point to give time, space and energy.
lots of people got their shit together and will meet you where you stand.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY LOVE 🩷
MAY YOU KEEP YOUR SMILE FOREVER ❤️🔥
I think the other way works too. But yeah, it’s the first one that’s the way it was written.
Thank you so much, Cherie for the birthday wishes. I really appreciate it. 🥰❤️
ah yes !
The Golden Rule is one of the most often mis-quoted and misinterpreted sections of Scripture.
“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.
These words from Matthew 7:12 have permeated our collective consciousness and become part of our lexicon. Most of us quote a semi-King James version of this New Testament Proverb:
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
But over the years, it’s become apparent how many people don’t actually know what Matthew 7:12 says, let alone what it really means. I’ve heard people say things like…
Don’t do to others what you don’t want done to you
Do unto others like they do to you
Don’t do unto others unless they do it first
Do unto others before they do unto you
and more…
On top of these and others, “The Golden Rule” has become a way to describe the most important elements of a particular discipline: “The Golden Rule of Business” or “The 10 Golden Rules of Proper Dinner Table Etiquette.”
And before anyone accuses me of criticizing “people” for misquoting this verse, let me tell you what this post is actually about. I have misquoted this verse to myself for years, and it wasn’t until recently that I realized the error of my ways. My personal misquotation of Matt 7:12 goes something like this:
Do unto others so that they will do unto you
In other words, I often lived as though if I treated others the way I want to be treated, they would respond in kind. I felt like I deserved to be treated a certain way because I was doing my part to obey the Golden Rule.
Now there are so many things wrong with this situation… so many things. But the one that gets me is how backward my perception of what I deserved really was. Jesus clearly does not promise that people will treat you like you want to be treated, and he certainly does not say we deserve special treatment because we follow the Golden Rule. He simply says that we should treat people the way we want to be treated out of obedience to God’s Law.
The whole sermon on the Mount is built around the idea that living in accordance with the Gospel brings heavenly rewards, not earthly rewards. Living for the kind treatment of others, or praise for good works, or monetary gain is its own reward, Jesus says. And when the day is done, we have nothing left to show for it. But if we live for the joy of the Lord and “treasures stored up in heaven” our reward will be eternal.
So while I was whining to myself about the treatment I “deserved” but wasn’t getting, I was missing out on heavenly blessings that come with laying ourselves down for the joy of the Lord and the good of others. But thanks be to God that He transforms hearts, clears up misconceptions, and continually offers chances to turn our eyes back to Him.
big hugs🩷
Based on this, sometimes I wonder how and what the best way is to realize one is wrong and actually turn back to the right path. Most times people just choose to just continue in the wrong direction because they feel they have gone too far or it will be shameful to admit you have been wrong all along.
It’s quite impressive that you realized the actual meaning behind this passage now and accept that you’ve had the wrong idea all along.
I was privileged to have known the actual meaning from the start. When I do things for people, I even sometimes pray they can’t pay back because it’s hard to turn down the offer when it comes. But it’s fine to accept help from someone we’ve helped before but that’s not the goal of helping them. Or that shouldn’t be the goal.
Thank you so much for this, Cherie. 🌹