The Bliss Of Having Only "Money Problems"
I remember working a job where I got sacked in 2014, apparently, there were a lot of inconsistencies in my work and the clients were beginning to notice some inexcusable errors in my work.
I was better than that These errors could have been avoided if I had my head in the game, but I'd just lost my dad, although I had a very supportive woman who I loved so much (even if it was very early in life) who left afterward. We had our lives planned out that early, but things changed.
She had a bigger goal to chase in life, and what I fail to understand is that sometimes we plan to succeed without thinking there's a chance that we might actually fail.
Long story short, I lost two people dear to me, one was to death, and the other, a different and not permanent form of loss. One thing about loss is that we need people to go through loss with, inasmuch as we want to grieve, silently, give up on the world, and keep reliving the reality of life and death, we need people to go through loss with.
These are the people who encourage us to see light amid our darkness.
The people whose presence might just convince us to see life as a gift that's worth treasuring. Not having these types of people makes it possible to lose the fight against grief.
In 2014, I lost that one person who could have put my head in the game. A lot of people might think "oh family members or relatives can do that" but if you've not grieved a personal loss, you'll not understand that in a time of grief, those people who are closest to you are the ones who are farthest from you.
The people who you share closer bonds with might just be the people who are too busy raising kids, having a lone peaceful time with their partners or are just too caught up with their jobs or education.
There's nothing to be pained or sad about this, it's reality, and no one is to be blamed, the more you understand, humanity, the more you'll prepare yourself for some of its most inevitable downsides.
This is why I expect anything from anybody, no matter how close they are to me. Training your mind to know how uncertain people or life can help will help you grow a different type of thick skin.
While this point is not a diss, you'll realize that problems or pain is the only metric to measure the closeness of people to you, irrespective of the previous illusion of closeness you felt before things started happening to you.
So I lost that job in 2014 because my errors were too noticeable. It was unusual of me to make those errors, and whether or not we're in pain or grieving, we still have to work to pay the bills. This reality check didn't snap me out from this phenomenon, and I lost that fight to grief and I plundered into a rabbit hole of hopelessness, grief, brokenness, and lack.
Sometimes, the smallest problems in life are "money problems".
The reason why I say this is that having the motivation to work and hustle without being cumbered by an emotional state of loss or sadness, is divine. It took about a year to get over 2014, and while that year was one of the darkest years of my life, I feel that the darkness that came with 2023 is a different kind of furnace: one in which the conflagration has burned with a different kind of pain.
I'm looking at 2023, it feels like a battle I'm naked fighting with the thought of my only siblings not there, if feels like a lost cause. I miss when the problem is used to money alone. Now it's everything. From not even having the motivation to work, to real-time crazy expenses, expectations, responsibilities, and a whole newer reality to face.
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I think the real 'work' is dealing with life itself and surfing its waves.
You're right, and that's where the challenges comes, especially having the fortitude and the bravery to do so.
I read or heard somewhere, that fear and guilt are the most unhelpful emotions and they are often very strong. Love and forgiveness ( also to/ for ourselves ) are the opposites, I guess. Let's try to focus on those as much as we can.
It's 3 weeks today and I feel as worse as the first day, I guess this continues with time. But, I'm having hope and trying to cultivate the right emotion
You can not do more than your best and it seems like you are. Sending love.
Life certainly has a number of challenges but those are opportunities for us to grow ourselves in more ways than one. It doesn't seem like it at the time but they are life lessons, albeit very difficult ones. It's unfortunate to hear about the loss of your dad and woman around the same time, but sadly it's better that way in some respects. If she was not strong enough to stay with you during those times, it would only happen in the future with other challenges.
Indeed these days we certainly wish for only money problems but we get lots of other problems while we're at it! Such is life though.. we will make it through!
At this stage in my life I majorly wish I can only have money problems. Unfortunately I have bigger problems that are threatening my resolve. Losing all of my nuclear family members has taken it's toll on me. That said, my problems now are now way bigger than money problems alone
Yeah man I can imagine! I haven't formally lost my family members but I'm ostracized from them for various reasons. One day I'll lose them though and I will see what happens when it comes to how it feels but I agree that in the short term it sets you adrift quite a bit. Hopefully you are able to find an anchor or at least a directional paddle!
It hurts differently, especially with the loss of my younger brother. It's not a pain I wish on anyone. At the moment, my life is on standstill because the pain is difficult to let off.
I'm sorry to hear that man, that's brutal! I pray that you'll find solace in it one day!
Life itself is a hectic form of work and must be scaled through, I'm sorry about your experiences in 2014, you're strong and that's why you're here today
Thank you for the kind words, 2014 is even mild compare to this year alone
The reality is universal to a sense that at certain times we are to sacrifice so many things and the nature's behaviour towards our own self doesnt seem fair.
But, I think in these times we are choiceless but to follow on and carry forward regular works, even the same economic stuffs.
Because at the conclusion, the world doesnt stop for little or massive losses.
Be blessed.
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Thank you
Life is in faces, l believe all of this will pass away soon.
I believe too, thank you
I can relate with everything you wrote here, An emotional problem is worse than a financial problem, it makes your heart quake and skip at the same time and it is just hard to explain to anyone.
I hope you heal and find peace amidst all of this.
There is a prayer point that we should never pray to experience a problem that money cannot solve
Money cannot bring back those people that you have lost. And what if the woman who left your life comes back. Would you take her back?
If money is only your problem you don't know what God has done for you. Life doesn't have a formula but I believe there is always light at the end of the tunnels
It's hard but life goes on. I am sure that you will overcome the sadness. I have had times where I made mistakes because my mind was on something else and work definitely suffered during those time periods. I am glad that I didn't let it affect me too much but if I wasn't able to snap out of it fast enough, I would have probably lost my job then.
In the same way, people who work for eight hours can never progress because after working, a person does not have time to think about life, so it is better that a person should focus on business. The profit inside is high and a person can get all his necessities of life and also get to learn a lot from today's crypto market.