Sudden change of plans
As I begin to write this, 06:35 local time, it is exactly 2 hours ago my grandma passed away.
I was not at the hospital when it happened, but was there yesterday - thankfully!
As some of you may know, I'm on a holida. Nothing major, just a cosy campsite in a caravan.
Yesterday we had planned to have a visit as one of my daughters friendsreally wanted to come, so we had arranged for them to be here about 1 pm.
This changed drastically, when I got a call at 12:45.
My grandma was in the hospital. This is nothing new, she has been sick for a long time - but this time it didn't seem like she would pull through.
We packed up real quick and drove to the hospital.
Seeing her like that was... rough! Especially for my daughter.
My grandma was doped up on some morphine, wired up to a lot of machines and was... confused, to say the least.
Thankfully, she seemed to be at peace with the situation and despite the circumstances, she managed to lighten the mood for those around her.
She was always good at that!
We spent the next 5 hours at the hospital. Weirdly enough, it didn't feel like 5 hours. More like 2 hours.
When we left, she was asleep. Peaceful and calm.
I went to her bedside to say goodbye. I had to.
It was obvious.
It's getting more and more difficult to write this, so I have to cut it short.
If you made it to the end, thank you for reading.
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Take care. It’s so hard. We had a similar situation with my father in law a couple of years ago. We downed tools, drove to Northampton to be with him and it was awful. He made it home a day or so later, I came home, my wife stayed, the following day she rang me - he had gone and she sound with her mum, aunty and sister had been with him the moment it happened.
It is indeed hard. I do find some comfortin the fact that she genuinely looked happy when we were all gathered.
I think she knew.
Sorry to hear about your father in law. I hope it wasn't one of those extremely sudden cases (though it does kinda sound like it).
I actually like the Northampton area, been there a few times.
Thank you for dropping by and for your kind words 🙏🏼
!BBH
He was being tested for some health issues, had suspected prostrate cancer, seemed like he was doing ok despite it all. Was in good spirits, still active, doing stuff. Then one day it escalated, further tests revealed the cancer had spread and he had days to live. Hence the entire family gathered and within a week he had died. Initially there was anger because some family members felt the hospital didn’t pick up on this sooner etc.
Then as time passed and we dealt with the extreme grief, we held back and decided that the staff simply were dealing with something so severe, they just couldn’t do anything anyway.
We go to Northamptonshire quite a lot to see mum, as a few months later that year she suffered a stroke. She has recovered but that too was an awful thing.
She is doing well and has changed a lot around her house.
That sounds awful! Unfortunately, sometimes cancer can spread worse than a wildfire and it can seem like doctors etc hasn't done their job properly.
I personally think it is the body itself that escalate the condition so fast that it seems it has been spreading for ages.
I'm really happy to hear she's doing well and seem to be in good spirits 🙌🏼
!BBH
I feel deep sorrow for the loss of your grandmother. It's clear how much she meant to you, and it's always painful to say goodbye to those we love, even when we know that day is coming.
Death is always inconvenient, regardless of the situation. I do, however, find some comfort in the fact that she must be in a better place now.. and I'm not even religious
Thank you for dropping by 🙏🏼
!BBH
Kondolere bro!
Det er noget værre lort bro. Min mormor døde for 1 månedstid siden og det er aldrig fedt :/
Take care!
Det er bestemt noget lort, men med hendes helbred har det været undervejs i noget tid.
Heldigvis sov hun stille ind
Det var det samme med min x)
Hun fik konstateret kræft for 2-3 år siden og vi ved ikke hvor længe hun havde det før det. Men det var det som smadrede hende totalt :/
Heldigvis var der ikke kræft med hos min mormor - så vidt jeg ved, i hvert fald.
Da min farmor gik bort for 8-9 år siden var det pga kræft.
Dengang fik vi at vide hun var i bedring, og én uge senere gik hun bort. Sikke en bedring.
Der var det lidt "nemmere" denne gang. Hun var selv klar over det, og er lykkelig over både vi fik sagt farvel og at hun sov stille ind.
Dog havde hun fået hevet ilten ud af næsen i går aftes og havde en iltmætning på 34. Hun fik sat det i igen på 60L og fik så morfin en gang i timen samt skruet gradvist ned for ilten indtil hun åndede fredeligt ud
Sorry for you loss mate ❤️
Thanks bro 🙏🏼
Sorry for your loss, mate 🕊️ this reminds of the day one of my grandmas left us, i felt it about 5 minutes before the call came.
Thanks buddy!
I actually woke up from my sleep around the time she passed. I got the word about 30 minutes after she had passed, but I knew.
I am so happy we got to see her yesterday!
!BBH
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I’m so sorry for your loss. May she Rest In Peace
Thank you!
I greatly appreciate your kind words 🙌🏼❤️
!BBH
Sorry for your loss, may her soul find abundance of peace, life is a cycle the moment a life ends another one begins, what matters most is the legacy we live behind, may she rest in peace knowing that her legacy continues.
Oh man this is tough. I'm sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace. Best wishes for you and your family.
!HUG
Thank you my friend 🙏🏼🙌🏼
!BBH
I am sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.
Thanks bro 🙌🏼
!BBH
My condolences for your loss 🤗