[Esp./Eng.] Alexitimia. || Alexithymia.
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Alexitimia
FĂjense, si uno se paraba a observarle con calma, se daba cuenta de que aquel hombre era… especial. Yo ya le conocĂa de hacĂa tiempo esa manera tan suya de andar por la vida, marcada por eso que los entendidos llaman alexitimia (carece de sensibilidad emotiva). Y ojo, no es que fuera un tipo frĂo a propĂłsito o que le cayera mal la gente, ¡para nada! Era más bien como si tuviera una especie de neblina por dentro que no le dejaba ver con claridad quĂ© sentĂa Ă©l cuando pasaban ciertas cosas o estaba con otras personas. Como si el lenguaje tan enrevesado de los sentimientos fuera para Ă©l un idioma nuevo que apenas empezaba a chapurrear.

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Lo que de verdad te llegaba, y hasta te conmovĂa un poco, era ver cĂłmo, sobre todo ya en sus años de vejez, el hombre se habĂa montado todo un repertorio de respuestas para el dĂa a dĂa. Un “gracias” de esos que suenan efusivos, unas palabras de ánimo cuando alguien lo pasaba mal, o una felicitaciĂłn con mucho entusiasmo… quizás no le salĂan de un rĂo de emociones internas que Ă©l mismo pudiera reconocer. Eran, más bien, frases aprendidas, detallitos de buena fe, que su cabeza y su buen fondo le decĂan que eran lo correcto y lo que hacĂa falta para llevarse bien con los demás. Para Ă©l, decir estas cosas era un esfuerzo por adaptarse, por intentar conectar con la gente en un terreno que se le hacĂa un poco extraño.
Pero claro, ese contraste entre sus palabras amables y esa aparente falta de emociĂłn que se le notaba (o no se le notaba) a menudo despistaba. Los que no entendĂan bien lo que le pasaba, o los que solo lo trataban por encima, podĂan llevarse una idea equivocada. Se oĂan comentarios por lo bajo, dudas sobre si era sincero de verdad, y a veces hasta lo tachaban de hipĂłcrita o de ser un calculador, sin pararse a pensar en la movida que habĂa detrás. No captaban que su esfuerzo era, precisamente, un gesto de consideraciĂłn, un intento de dar lo que Ă©l sabĂa, que la gente esperaba y agradecĂa, aunque de dĂłnde venĂa esa emociĂłn fuera para Ă©l un completo misterio.
Eso sĂ, para los pocos que se tomaban la molestia de conocerle un poco más, de mirar más allá de la primera impresiĂłn, se descubrĂa a una persona de una calidad humana tremenda. Su bondad no se veĂa en grandes demostraciones de sentimientos, sino en hechos, dĂa tras dĂa, en una lealtad de esas que no hacen ruido y en estar siempre dispuesto a echar una mano. Conectar con Ă©l era descubrir un cariño diferente, quizás no tan “de pelĂcula” como otros, pero autĂ©ntico, de verdad y muy valioso. Te hacĂa pensar que ser una buena persona es algo que va mucho más allá de saber ponerle nombre a cada sentimiento o de expresarlos todos a flor de piel. Bendiciones para mi amigo Pepe si aĂşn vive allá en Venezuela.
Ven y participa, aĂşn estás a tiempo. Toda la informaciĂłn la podrás encontrar cada dĂa en la Comunidad #Freewritehouse. EspecĂficamente, el dĂa de hoy, aquĂ la publicaciĂłn del prompt:
«carece de sensibilidad»
Portada de la iniciativa.

Dedicado a todos aquellos que, dĂa a dĂa, con su arte, hacen del mundo un lugar mejor.


Alexithymia
Look, if you stopped to observe him calmly, you realized that this man was… special. I'd long known his way of going through life, marked by what experts call alexithymia (lacks emotional sensitivity). And mind you, it's not that he was deliberately cold or that he disliked people, not at all! It was more as if he had a kind of fog inside that prevented him from clearly seeing what he felt when certain things happened or when he was with other people. As if the convoluted language of emotions was a new language for him that he was just beginning to slur.

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What really touched you, and even moved you a little, was seeing how, especially in his older years, the man had built up a whole repertoire of responses for everyday life. A heartfelt “thank you,” a few words of encouragement when someone was having a hard time, or a heartfelt congratulations… perhaps they didn't come from a flood of internal emotions that he himself could recognize. Rather, they were learned phrases, little details of good faith that his head and his innermost being told were the right thing to do and what was needed to get along with others. For him, saying these things was an effort to adapt, to try to connect with people in a realm that felt a bit unfamiliar to him.
But of course, the contrast between his kind words and the apparent lack of emotion that was noticeable (or not noticeable) in him was often misleading. Those who didn't fully understand what he was going through, or those who only treated him superficially, could get the wrong idea. There were whispered comments, doubts about whether he was truly sincere, and sometimes they even called him a hypocrite or calculating, without stopping to consider the underlying plot. They didn't grasp that his effort was, precisely, a gesture of consideration, an attempt to give what he knew people expected and appreciated, although the source of that emotion remained a complete mystery to him.
Of course, for the few who took the time to get to know him a little better, to look beyond the first impression, one discovered a person of tremendous human quality. His kindness wasn't evident in grand displays of emotion, but in actions, day after day, in a loyalty that makes no noise, and in his always willingness to lend a hand. Connecting with him was discovering a different kind of affection, perhaps not as “picture-perfect” as others, but authentic, true, and very valuable. He made you think that being a good person goes far beyond knowing how to name every emotion or expressing them all with all your heart. Blessings to my friend Pepe if he still lives there in Venezuela.
Come and participate, there's still time. You can find all the information daily in the #Freewritehouse Community. Specifically, today's prompt post:
«lacks sensitivity»
Cover of the initiative.

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Hoy mile de venezolanos se han convertido en "Pepe" tartamos de llevarnso bien con todos , sin experesar los sentimientos profundos que albergamos, es mejor la amabalididad y la resilencia que andar expresando otras emociones
Cierto, pero también es contraproducente, guardarse los sentimientos, hay que buscar drenarlos. Muchos terminan somatizando la situación y se enferman, y no podemos permitirlo.
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