The age factor.

Is there really a specific age that one must get to before getting married? This is the question that has been roaming my head since I saw this week's third edition prompt.

A little story about what happened to me recently: so late part of last month I had a long conversation with my aunt, she is someone I love talking to because she knows me to the point that I can't imagine. She knows when something is going on with me, but then I don't know how she does it, though, but that is something I love so much.

Back to the conversation, we were talking when one conversation led to another, and then the topic of discussion finally escalated to something else entirely, and the topic was "Tari, how are you?" Now knowing that she had asked me this question before, I decided to pretend like I didn't hear the question, to my greatest surprise, she repeated it again, and I responded this time with a very big "Fine".

After responding "fine," she continued, "I know you are fine, but that is not what I'm asking you about." Then I asked again, "Then what are you asking me about?" She didn't say anything for a while and went mute. I had to pause as well so I won't force words into her mouth and allow her say what she has in her mind.

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After a while of staring at each other, she finally decided to pop the question, "When is he coming to see us?" At that moment I became confused and decided to mute as well. Being in my quiet state, a lot of things started roaming in my head on how to shift her mind from that conversation and talk about something else. Did I achieve that? Of course I did, but then that question keeps coming once in a while, though, but then I'm getting used to it too.

I don't think there is anything like a marriageable age. With the world today, people of different age brackets are getting married; every Saturday, there is an occasion to grace with our presence. While age isn't a problem, I still believe in minors not getting married. I believe that from the age of 20 is okay to settle in with the love of their lives.

Gone are the days when parents would see a beautiful flower and be like "this is ny son's wife" and those words would come to pass like magic, gone are the days when children are given out by parents due to best reasons known to them like "a man being good or hardworking" now those were kind of the criteria to a good marriage back in the days.

But right now, you can't force a child into such a marriage because with the world today, a lot has changed, the love that was said to be blind back in the days has been healed, and its eyes have been opened widely to see our flaws.

The world is evolving and a lot of things have been born that are changing our mindset, the way we think, and how we do things have changed rapidly.

Talking about the age bracket thing, I don't really believe in a certain age bracket, though, as long as the man is older, "that works for me," but then what works for me can't work for others. I believe everyone has their choices and knows what best suits them. Like they say "age is nothing but a number".

Thank you for reading 🧡