The Power of Rejection: A Hidden Path to Growth and True Connections
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Everyone hates the feeling of rejection; not being wanted by the people you love, being rejected from a society or even rejection from the job offer you are pursuing. It can be so painful and strong enough to weigh a person down in deep thoughts, low self-esteem, and anger. At the same time, it reveals the person's emotional intelligence and how true a person can be to you regardless. Rejection, though painful, can be a good thing and this is what I will discuss in this post.
A lot of people react to rejections differently, but the next steps of actions that a person takes show their true nature. If they will react based on their anger or jealousy, or they will take a step back to see the whole picture and work on themselves?
I am someone who gives NO as a default answer to requests asked of me most especially from my friends, and that is because most of the time I want to see how the person reacts when I don't give out or accept what the request is asked. I always ask myself this question: "If I say no, would they still stay around or still be my friends?".
Based on this experiment, you will get to know people who are real to you, or people who are around you only based on what you offer or what they can get from you. It is important to do this because when they don't have anything they need from you, or at your lowest point in life, that is when you will know those that are real to you.
The Pain from Rejection
This pain can be seen as a beautiful source of energy, to be better, to improve to work on oneself, and to see failure as the direction to a better place. There are a lot of great people that have failed, received rejections multiple times, and made it out to be successful.
Take for instance, "Melanie Perkins" the founder of the Canva application we all use today. She faced over 100 rejections from venture capitalists when initially pitching her idea, with many doubting the potential of a design platform accessible to everyone Source.
There is no way we will live in this life and one way or another we will not face rejection. It is how we respond to the rejection that determines our outcome. And the pain from rejection can be a drive into pushing hard to achieve what we want for ourselves.
Rejection is common to all, it is our response to rejection that determines our outcome.
Imagine if Perkins gave up because she saw rejected. One must strive despite rejection from others.
yeah true... one must strive despite the face of rejection.
Thanks for the awesome addition.
All are not equal; rejection should not be considered bad, as you mentioned. It can be indeed an energy to boost us. If we free ourselves from fears of rejection then we can move and achieve many things in our life. We need to treat this sentiment as a positive one.
Just as the way we need to treat the sentiment of failure as a positive one.
The ability to respond to rejections, from person to person, differs. For me rejections really get to me, especially when I'm rejected by someone very dear to me.
Very true!
I was very inspired by this post. Rejection really hurts, but we can learn a lot from it. Your article shows that when someone says 'no', we will know for ourselves who is really with us. Melanie Perkins' example shows that it is possible to succeed even after many rejections. Thank you for sharing this beautiful message in simple language
Rejection is normal, and in all things we should be prepared for rejection as it comes.
I also reject people by default when they ask for help unless it in necessary. I think I don't have unlimited time give to everyone. But I can understand the power of rejection because I have seen many cases like that.
In my opinion, rejection can be a source of energy if the person is stubborn.