Second Chances
Personally, I feel there's nothing that properly explains a double edged sword better than giving someone second chances. And this is because it could go both ways, either good or bad. The sad thing is that you never know until it happens.
I have this lady friend of mine who used to date this guy back in the day. Whenever we talked about him, she would always tell me about certain ways he was treating her that she didn't like, and most times they ended up breaking up, only for them to get back together again. It was a constant on and off relationship until she eventually got pregnant for him, delivered the baby, and he became the worse father on earth.
This time, they ended things for real and it has been nothing but regrets for her because now she has to raise the child all by herself, with no support from him. Unfortunately, I just got off a phone call from a friend and he too is currently going through something similar.
You see, not everyone or everything deserves a second chance. If you find out for the first time that you're allergy to peanuts and barely survived it, you don't go back to it after a while to see if you can survive it again...no, instead you stay as far away as possible from anything that looks like it has peanuts in it.
So why not apply that same mentality in relationships and in our day to day life. Yes, I agree that sometimes, giving someone a second chance could end up being the best decisions of our lives, but not when the person was an abusive partner or someone you considered to be a danger to your wellbeing.
Most times, the best decisions we can take for ourselves is to walk away and never look back, no matter how hard the situation might feel..just like how you would walk away from that peanut the next time you see it.
No one says its going to be simple or easy, but if you value your life and wouldn't want one bad decision to scar you for the rest of your life (if not worse), then you would do it.
I always detest toxic relationships, especially when it's the guy that's not responsible, ladies should try to set boundaries.
Funny enough, ladies can be toxic too.. I don't think it has anything to do with the gender but more with the person instead.
Sure you are right
A second chance in a relationship must be considered based on the experience. Although I am not an expert and I was never in a relationship but based of my observation, very few cases work well in a second chance. I would recommend not taking a high risk by giving anyone a second chance in a relationship.
This is why I said it's a double edged sword, because on one hand it could work out and end up being one of the best decision that you've taken, while on the other hand, it could be the worse thing you've done to yourself.
Take a look at the Kevin Hart situation. He got caught cheating but was forgiven by his wife, and now, based on what we see online, they have a very happy family.