Kill that entitlement mentality: no one owes you anything.

Hello, everyone.

Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learner's featured post. The longer you live, the more lessons life gets to teach, the more mistakes you make, and the more you learn from the mistakes made. An artist in my country said in one of his songs, "Life will teach you things a professor will never teach you," and when I heard those words, I took them for granted or did not really read meaning into them until things started to unfold in my life, and it was at that moment those words kept ringing in my head.

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As much as every day is a blessing, every day comes with a lesson too. Life and experience happen to be the best teachers, but some people will disagree with me. Sometimes if you don't experience certain things yourself, you will never know how deep they cut, and you will never give those who have experienced it those flowers, and most of the time life only gets to teach you lessons by causing you to experience certain things.

Every new day comes with one lesson or another, some bad and some good, which is why I said the longer you live, the more lessons you get to learn because each passing day leaves you with one message or even two. Some of these messages might be so small or insignificant that if you do not calm down and look into it, you might not even pick up or take the lesson the day left for you. Sometimes you just need to be observant enough to get the lessons you need to push yourself to the next level.

I have seen people have issues with others, friends near grudges against eachother, nephews and nieces labeling an uncle or an aunty bad, greedy and stingy people hating on another person ball because that person failed to come through for them when they needed them to, because they feel because they are friends or related to that person that simply means they are entitled to help from the person but that mentality is very wrong, you are only entitled to help from your parents because it is their duty, outside them, you are not entitled to help from anybody and if anyone chooses to help, it should be out of their own benevolence and not because you are entitled to it, also them helping should not make you feel like it is your right to be helped by them.

I used to be one who relied on the help I got from both parents, uncles, and aunties. I felt so relaxed and was not willing to do anything for myself until the help was not coming anymore. There were no warnings, no signs; just all of a sudden they ceased to offer the help they used to offer. At first I felt like they had failed me or were tampering with my right, and how entitled I felt to the help they were offering started to make me want to give them a label that is not theirs, but I learned the lesson, and I learned it the hard way.

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I let go of the entitlement mentality and had to start working for myself. You have to realize that no one owes you anything, no one is coming to save you, and it is either you sit up and get to work or keep whining.