One Priceless Life Lesson School Couldn’t Teach Me
There are many life lessons I've learned so far outside the school settings, which obviously have shaped my life for good and are still positively affecting my life.
A lot of things are being taught in school, and the knowledge apparently guides us in real-life activities, but hold on, life is the real school!
There is no doubt that in school we learn how to solve the hardest math, learn scientific experiments, take courses that will expose us to lots of knowledge, and lots more. This is proof that school offers a lot of value; it makes room for us to have a better opportunity in real life, but the truth is that school can't teach us all we need to survive life, but experience does in many ways. For instance, school didn't teach me clearly how to navigate the many ups and downs of life, but real-life experiences did. And so one of the major lessons life taught me outside school is that my happiness depends on me. It's not tied to anyone or any circumstances.
Permit me to practically give you an instance of how this lesson has shaped my life and why it's so important to me.
When I was newly married, let's say my first 3 years in marriage, I felt like my presence was not valued at all. None of my opinion mattered; I was a kind of voiceless. I only did as my husband said, and all my silent attempts to be sure that my voice was heard yielded no result. I felt very unhappy within myself; I bottled a lot of feelings and lots of opinions that I felt would be good for us because my husband wouldn't listen to my opinion but only wanted me to obey his.
From day one, I have been so supportive, but even that didn't change that character of his. I thought it could, and I would be happy sharing ideas together and working as a team, but that didn't happen. The sad part of it was that he didn't see it as a problem, meanwhile, I was dying slowly inside of me. But then, I needed to be happy; I needed nothing to contend with my happiness. I knew that if such a situation were reversed, then I would reclaim the happiness I lost in my home back then. School didn't teach me how to go about reclaiming a lost happiness right ? And so I involved our wedding sponsors, who visited, and I respectfully and politely talked to hubby about how such an attitude drains my happiness away. These sponsors came through and exposed both of us to certain knowledge based on their experience, and that became a turning point for us.
Since that day till date, hubby and I work closely together, and my voice is respected. My opinion counts, and most importantly, my happiness got restored. There are many other instances where I strive to reclaim my happiness. This is because I realized that I am the one in charge of my happiness and of course my happiness is important to me so I can feel good about life, I cant imagine a sad kind of life .
I take responsibility to be happy regardless of a situation; my happiness shouldn't be tied to someone, and this is a lesson life taught me via my experiences and outside the school environment.
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Hi, Mama. It is true that school can’t teach us anything. School teaches math, English and all other subjects. But you see life? We learn about that one outside school.
Although I can’t late to how you felt during your first three years, I kind of understand how pained and helpless you were. I’m glad you voiced out and your sponsors made things better.
Cheers to you and Engineer, mama. ❤️
The voicing out was what helped me to reclaim my happiness till date
Thanks for engaging my better pikin 💖
In fact, school doesn't teach anything that has to do with home and marriage. Or they teach that in social studies? Lol😅
It's good you were able to secure the happiness that was already running away
Lol...they teach little in social studies but never go deep to real life stuffs
Lol..that happiness was running oo but I pursued it
I admire your kind of person like alot. You learnt alot through your experience.
Thank you my T 💖
Honestly, we owe ourselves happiness, no one own us that. I know how it feels to for your voice not to be heard especially when you want to express your thought
My dear...it usually feels suppressing but it's all in the past now
Omo... Many times, all that is required is to just speak up. Because waiting for change never really works for anyone, you have to be willing to go out there to get it. You did, and it worked for you.
You're doing well!!!
Omo .I waited for that change without success until I pursued it and reclaim my happiness back
Thank you
Many many thanks @bhattg
I think such kind to lesson need to be learn based on our feelings and we can't learn it from school. I am not saying anything more because I think I don't have enough knowledge to suggest.
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Yea. It's emotional thing and if course we can't learn it in school
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School can never teach those aspects, we are the ones to navigate life on our own, finding what works best for us and not. There are a lot life brings to us and there’s no map anywhere even from school to help us navigate. You can imagine your situation, who taught you? Basically, not school but had to do what is right and for yourself, too.
Of course...school didn't teach me that but life 👌
School teach us a lot of things but there are other one million and one things that are not spelled out in school curriculum to teach us.
All those aspect that are not included in the school syllabus are waiting for us to learn in the real life which is also a type of learning. It is called EXPERIENCE.
And of course experience is the best teacher
Thank you lady 💖
Personally, i believe teachers themselves don't teach us anything about life, but then school sometimes teaches or better still give us certain experiences about life. Like there are just some things you would witness in a normal school environment like the hostel that would open your eyes to certain things if you are really observant and pay attention.
Of course school open our eyes to certain things but not definitely everything we need to navigate life
Yeah that's true👍