Exaggerated Opinions
I don't think in either one way or the other a living being has not been stereotyped before, I doubt it. We all have been talked about or described either in a negative or positive way. Some people are even stereotyping others as I'm writing this blog...lolz... that's life.
We can't run away from such, we will continue to live with it and I've counted it as part of life's experience. I've been subjected to some stereotypes and today I will share a few with you.
Firstly most people think any lady that is fair in complexion is Promiscuous no matter your tribe, which I'm among them.
I don't know where this particular mentality comes from, but I think it is a general belief in the heart of black people.
They say we are attractive and we can use the attractiveness to get whatever we want anytime any day. Some even go to the extent that we can hypnotize men both single and married with our complexion.
A neighbour had jokingly told me that I can't tell him that I'm broke (not having money) because he knew I will have rich guys at my disposal. He said he knows numerous guys will be fluxing around me because of my look, so I have excess money.
He categorically said, had it been he had a sister that's fair like me, he can't be giving her money because he knows his sister will be silently richer than him.......see the rubbish mentality
I tried my best to let him understand that not all of us are flirting but he was adamant. When I got tired I was just smiling at whatever he was saying because I knew nothing could change his mind.
But how on earth will I explain to people that can and as well can't face me but speak at my back that whatever they might have assumed in their mind about me isn't true?
This inappropriate assumption about us isn't fair at all, but we can't do anything about it than to live right to prove to those saying the rubbish that we can live right without being Promiscuous.
Secondly, some people think I'm arrogant simply because I don't mingle with lots of people.
Among my colleagues, I only have a close pal while others are just mere workplace buddies no sting attached at all.
People don't know I'm not an everybody person, I love minding my business and don't want to interfere at all in matters that don't concern me. They don't know my natural being loves to be with a small circle of friends so that I will be able to mingle very well.
I try to study people to know if they are those I will love to be with. So any large gathering isn't convenient for me, I try my best to avoid being in the midst of crowds.
But people count my nature as arrogance, some even say the way I usually turn down invitations shows excessive pride while others say even if I'm in an event the way I usually carry myself is full of pride that I should work on myself so that I won't be isolated by others in the nearest future......please on top wetin nah.☹️
It just so disheartening that different negative opinions are been said here and there without one been able to stop it. But who are mine to change people's mindset? they can think or say whatever they like in as much it doesn't affect my existence or decrease my salary.
So far I'm true to myself, comments from people are secondary. I've chosen to ignore all the bad comments and embrace my true self, I live my life the best way I can!
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We can't help others with their opinions and mentality unless they want to be helped.
I understand what the guy means saying you are fair and will have men after you: truly fair and beautiful ladies often get offers and you know your way around, you'd be getting money too without being in a relationship with of the men that comes aorund. Him not believing that you're not among is clearly is ignorance.
My sister are fair, some believed that they can't be single, they pretend to be saints but are bad girls. All sort of nonsense.
Every human has the right to think whatever since it's their mind , not to say whatever though.
Imagine the silly talks. That's unfair! You've said it all, people can think whatever that comes to their mind. Thanks for visiting
It is not only female, it is a general believe among most people that fair people are flirty in nature, both male and female. I can't even count the number of times I have been subjected to this kind of stereotype but all I do is to turn deaf ears to whatever anyone have to say about me.
As in, that is bad. Why are people generalizing that nonsense assumption? It's can give a person low self esteem if care is not taking.
That is for those that allow such low thinking to affect them.
I just watched a movie where there was a high stereotype for black women. It's so unfair.
Hmmmmm very unfair, it is well
Thanks for the curation
It is believed that we fair people have advantage over the dark ones because we appear more attractive but am yet to even see the difference. Everyone is beautiful and it all depends on how each individual wants to live their lives.
Thank you o, I didn't see the difference too. The fairness sometimes works in ones disadvantage because you can't get to a place and misbehave, one will be easily identified.