We must be selfish [EN/PT]
Sometimes we go through life on autopilot, chasing goals, honoring responsibilities, and building our plans, without stopping to think about the real reason behind it all. We work, plan, and give up many things believing that we are doing it for ourselves, but when we stop to reflect calmly, we realize that perhaps this is not quite the case. Much of what we seek does not come solely from personal desire, but from care and concern for those who walk alongside us.
It is interesting to think about how much effort we put into our lives and goals so that achievements are actually attained, but meditating on this, I realized that for me, and perhaps for most people, these achievements are not really for ourselves, but for those around us. A family man wants a better life for his children, after all, he gives up his time, his health, and sometimes his own happiness just to bring a better quality of life to those he loves. We are altruistic, and that is indeed a good quality. If everyone were like that, the world would probably function much better. But even though our thoughts are almost always beyond ourselves, there needs to be a moment of selfishness.
Mind you, just a moment of selfishness, not to become selfish. We look at this word with raised eyebrows; it's shocking to say that we need to be selfish, but the truth is that in the midst of the altruistic lives that many of us lead, taking a moment to think about ourselves is beneficial. This does not mean that we are saints and think only of others all the time, but it is common for some people to do this so often that they end up forgetting themselves. The most altruistic person I know is my mother, who to this day does everything with others in mind, and I deeply admire her for that, but even she should have that moment, and I would like that. Perhaps that was one of the strongest characteristics I inherited from her.
I honestly don't remember exactly when was the last time I did something thinking only of myself. Usually everything I plan involves the satisfaction of the people who are close to me and whom I love, such as my son, my girlfriend, my mother, or my brother. I think more about them than about myself in almost every decision, that's the truth. But yesterday, talking to my girlfriend, I decided to start a hobby. Actually, I'm not starting, because I already did it before, but now I want to do it the way I always wanted to, thinking about myself this time.
My decision was to use the money I would spend on cigarettes—I haven't smoked in two months—on something I like, something I want. I could use that money for household expenses or to supplement other needs, but I decided to direct it toward something personal. This hobby is about camping. I decided to invest in survival-related equipment, but if you don't know what that is, just think of camping stuff. Every month, I plan to buy a few items, such as a more suitable backpack, fire equipment, a flashlight, a knife, and other things like that.
Actually, I already have a backpack with some improvised equipment at the country house where my mother lives, but everything there was handmade or made with cheaper products to avoid spending money. I've always liked these things, but they were never a priority for me. I wouldn't spend money on something I considered silly when I could invest in my family's future or buy something for my son and the house. So I finally decided to think of something for myself.
I confess that I'm still a little uncomfortable with this decision, and writing this ended up being a good coincidence, almost an opportunity to externalize something that had always crossed my mind, but that I had never been able to see clearly in my actions. Maybe seeing it this way, I realize that I don't need to feel bad for thinking a little about myself or about something that will do me good without directly benefiting other people. Sometimes it feels like being selfish, but it's a good kind of selfishness.
Finally, I believe that sometimes we really need to think about ourselves, and that doesn't mean we're bad people. The big challenge is to abandon this negative idea that arises when we choose ourselves and think we're neglecting our family. Dedicating a little space to our own desires does no harm. On the contrary, this satisfaction can lighten the load we carry by always putting everyone else first. So I can say that, although it's difficult, we need to choose ourselves from time to time. We need to take care of our desires a little, and just a little selfishness is good for us too.
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Às vezes a gente segue a vida no automático, correndo atrás de objetivos, honrando as responsabilidades e construindo os nossos planos, sem parar muito para pensar no motivo real por trás de tudo isso. Trabalhamos, planejamos e abrimos mão de muitas coisas acreditando que estamos fazendo isso por nós mesmos, mas quando paramos para refletir com calma, percebemos que talvez não seja bem assim. Grande parte do que buscamos não nasce apenas de um desejo pessoal, mas do cuidado e da preocupação com quem caminha ao nosso lado.
É interessante pensar o quanto de esforço colocamos em nossas vidas e objetivos para que conquistas sejam de fato alcançadas, mas meditando sobre isso percebi que para mim, e talvez para a maioria das pessoas, essas conquistas não são propriamente para si, mas para aqueles que estão por perto. Um homem de família quer ter uma vida melhor para os filhos, afinal ele abre mão do tempo, da saúde e às vezes da própria felicidade apenas para trazer mais qualidade de vida para quem ama. Somos altruístas e essa é sim uma qualidade boa. Se todos fossem assim, o mundo provavelmente funcionaria muito melhor. Mas apesar dos pensamentos quase sempre estarem além de nós mesmos, é necessário existir um momento de egoísmo.
Veja bem, apenas um momento egoísta, não para se tornar egoísta. Olhamos para essa palavra já com as sobrancelhas levantadas, causa impacto dizer que precisamos ser egoístas, mas a verdade é que em meio a uma vida altruísta que muitos de nós levamos, ter um momento para pensar em si é algo benéfico. Isso não quer dizer que somos santos e pensamos apenas nas pessoas o tempo todo, mas é comum que algumas pessoas façam isso com tanta frequência que acabam esquecendo de si mesmas. A pessoa mais altruísta que conheço é minha mãe, que até hoje faz tudo pensando nos outros, e eu a admiro profundamente por isso, mas até ela deveria ter esse momento e eu gostaria disso. Talvez esse tenha sido uma das características mais fortes que herdei dela.
Eu sinceramente não me lembro exatamente quando foi a última vez que fiz algo pensando só em mim. Normalmente tudo que planejo envolve a satisfação das pessoas que estão perto de mim e que amo, como meu filho, minha namorada, minha mãe ou meu irmão. Penso mais neles do que em mim em quase todas as decisões, essa é a verdade. Mas ontem, conversando com minha namorada, eu decidi começar um hobby. Na verdade não estou começando, pois já fazia isso antes, mas agora quero fazer da maneira que sempre quis, pensando em mim dessa vez.
A minha decisão foi usar o dinheiro que eu gastaria com cigarro, estou há dois meses sem fumar, em algo que eu goste, um desejo meu. Eu poderia usar esse dinheiro para despesas da casa ou para complementar outras necessidades, mas decidi direcionar para algo pessoal. Esse hobby é sobre acampamento. Resolvi investir em equipamentos relacionados ao sobrevivencialismo, mas se você não sabe o que é isso, pense apenas em coisas de acampamento mesmo. Mensalmente pretendo comprar alguns itens, como uma mochila mais adequada, equipamentos para fogo, lanterna, faca e outras coisas desse tipo.
Na verdade eu já tenho uma mochila com alguns equipamentos improvisados na casa de campo onde minha mãe vive, mas tudo lá foi feito de forma artesanal ou com produtos mais baratos para evitar gastar dinheiro. Eu sempre gostei dessas coisas, mas nunca foram prioridade para mim. Eu não gastaria dinheiro com algo que considerava uma bobagem enquanto poderia investir no futuro da minha família ou comprar algo para meu filho e para a casa. Então decidi finalmente pensar em algo para mim.
Confesso que ainda estou um pouco desconfortável com essa decisão, e escrever isso acabou sendo uma coincidência boa, quase uma oportunidade de externalizar algo que sempre passou pela minha cabeça, mas que eu nunca tinha conseguido enxergar com clareza nas minhas atitudes. Talvez vendo tudo dessa forma eu perceba que não preciso me sentir mal por pensar um pouco em mim ou em algo que vai me fazer bem sem beneficiar diretamente outras pessoas. Às vezes a sensação é de estar sendo egoísta, mas é um egoísmo do bem.
Por fim, acredito que às vezes realmente precisamos pensar em nós e isso não significa que somos ruins. O grande desafio é abandonar essa ideia negativa que surge quando escolhemos a nós mesmos e achar que estamos deixando nossa família de lado. Dedicar um pequeno espaço para nossos próprios desejos não faz mal. Pelo contrário, essa satisfação pode aliviar o peso que carregamos ao colocar todos sempre como prioridade. Então posso dizer que, apesar de difícil, precisamos nos escolher de vez em quando. Precisamos cuidar um pouco dos nossos desejos, e apenas um pouquinho de egoísmo também faz bem.
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Sometimes we need to be selfish to get our balance
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Sometimes we have to be selfish not just to other people around us but to ourselves too to be able to get balanced in life and achieve the things that we want to achieve.
True, there is a balance in that kind of thinking
Healthy selfishness isn’t about not caring about others — it’s about respecting yourself.
It helps you set boundaries, avoid burnout, make decisions based on your own goals, and take responsibility for your life. A person who knows how to take care of themselves is usually more stable and, in the long run, able to give more to others.
Destructive selfishness — “Everything for me, nothing for anyone else.”
Healthy selfishness — “I matter too.”
There is wisdom in those words, and it makes a lot of sense to think that way
We indeed do tend to forget about ourselves most of the time. At my age, I worry about my siblings more than I do for myself but I guess it’s because I care about them.
Taking this step is really a great thing for you and I bet it would be something you’d looking forward to all the time.
I guess it’s just an age thing haha, the older we get, the more we think about others instead of ourselves
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