Shared Responsibility: The Act Of Ghosting

Ghosting people has been something so common nowadays, a few moments ago you were still having a nice conversation with them, and then in no time you barely hear from them anymore. Most times, I have always thought about the reason behind people suddenly ghosting each other.

To be sincere, there are a lot of reasons why ghosting could take place, and I see no reason for one party to blame the other. In the end, it's all about making choices.

There was a time a friend of mine challenged me for not checking up on her, and I was surprised when she put all the blame on me. I questioned myself, am I the one at fault, or are we both at fault? The last time I got her message was when we had a conversation. She never intentionally dropped a message to ask how I have been or to just check up on me. But in the end, I was the bad person for not checking up on her.

I explained all of these to her, but she was so adamant about her words. She never took the blame on herself. And I also wasn't ready to apologize. We both silenced ourselves since then, and I didn't think anyone really checked up on each other ever since that time.

There are a lot of people with their toxic ways; it was just a simple thing that we could solve, but it seems she never wanted a solution to it. It's fine if she had just admitted that she was also at fault, and then I would also apologize for not checking up on her.

Life happens, and we might have gotten so busy that we placed priority on the people around us. So most times we tend to give quick responses to those who are just closer to us and actively dealing with us.

It might be that the person has been battling with an illness and couldn’t have the time to check up on anyone, or they are in a position to be checked up on.

People happen to believe that once you don’t check on them, you have already ghosted them for some reason. And then they try to retaliate by not responding instead of asking or trying to know the reason behind the sudden change in behavior.

Like I have said, ghosting is a choice, and there has always been a reason behind the action. It might be to avoid stress, poor communication, toxic relationships, personal safety, or health challenges. Many other reasons, but these are the ones I think might be a reason why people ghost each other.

Come to think about the consequences of ghosting. It has always been easy to start, but so difficult to put an end to. A lot of people today find it difficult to reconcile with the friends or people they ghosted. I feel the gap that comes from ghosting each other builds a bridge of long-term hatred and dislike among us.

So it’s better to avoid anything that will lead to ghosting, because when it comes to play, it has never been easier to end.