It's a different thing from surrogacy
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Life isn't a bed of roses as we all know this truth. We have to give a lot of sacrifices in our life. We need to tolerate many things in our life too. Sometimes things are very easy for us while sometimes things are very difficult for us and we can't do those things.
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Willing to Be parents!!!
After marriage almost every couple wish to be a parent, some wish to become parents sooner while some wish to become parents later as it's their decision to be parents when they're ready. But some parents can't conceive a child and i think it's really saddest thing. Well every problem has a solution too.
Surrogacy!!!
Surrogacy is a very complex procedure and it's not allowed in many countries while in some countries it's allowed to do surrogacy. Actually surrogacy is complex thing to perform invitro fertilization in a surrogate mother. Genetic parents are real while the parents who give birth are different and it's really complex in my terms.
In my country surrogacy isn't common, and i never saw it here maybe it's happening or I'm not aware of that but the process of adopting a child is very common here. Some parents adopt the child from adaptation centers while some adopt the baby from the their relative and the procedure is very common here in Pakistan.
Baby adoption
I Know many families that adopt a child from their relative like sister or brother. In my neighbors there are four brothers live in a house. And all brother's are getting married now and have their kids too while one of them can't conceive a child. They want to have a baby too. They discuss it with their brothers that what if one of them give them a baby after birth. In this way the baby remain in the home but he/she called mom and dad to them. But they'll live together in a house.
One of his brother agreed to give their baby after birth. It's not the surrogacy because the fertilization is natural not invitro fertilization or also they didn't impregnate the fertilization. Genetic parents and the parents give birth are same but the parents who raise the kid will be different.
They adopt the baby after birth immediately or maybe after a day. Now that kid is of three year's old and he live there happily but you know rumors are everywhere and i know that people will tell him the truth when he'll become a boy because he already heard the rumors about his parents but now he can't understand but still people talk about it.
Does his real parents has right to speak ??
Mostly i saw that there's an agreement signed that now the actual parents can't speak in his matters but it depends on person as everyone has different mindsets because some allowed to speak while some aren't but I think if real parents start to speak in his matters then it'll be complex for a child because life already complicated for the kid when he heard the rumors that the parents he called mom or dad are not his real parents. So things will become complex.
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Surrogacy is not so common in my country either. And I don't support the interference of a surrogate mother or the mother giving the child to another because it will cause complications for the child.
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Yes i also don't support it as it'll lead to much complexity for the kid in his future
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My chachi gave her ONE kid to phopho as she don't have a child but since they live near each other... They come every Sunday.
Also, first child she gave was lost within early 6 months due to medical issues and not related to phopho. My chacho chahi still gave another son.
Yes i know it's common that we give our kids to those sisters and brothers who don't have kids. As it's the benefit that they can visit to children. May God give them reward for this good deed.
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This is an interesting subject in my opinion.
Surrogacy
If someone is a surrogate mother they have no right to the child, they are paid to have a baby for someone else and are in a contract. They should not be a surrogate if they cannot cope with the agreements as it was never their child in the first place.
Adoption
If someone has given their child to services for adoption again they have no rights they never want to raise the child through the most crucial time of it's life.
Trying to win them back and be part of their life after someone else took thier responsibility, loved and raised them is an aweful thing also and damaging to the child.
Fostering
Me and my wife have had over 4 children of our own and we have fostered children over the years that have been damaged and abandoned by unfit parents. They often come with serious issues and problems that someone else has to deal with and try and repair.
Being a good parent is beyond creating or carrying babies these things do not make someone a parent.
It is continued nurture, love and support for their whole life even into adulthood that makes a parent, nothing but the good of the child should be considered.
Emotional adults that can't cope or baby carriers or makers does not make somone a parents and in all honesty their feelings do not matter the safety and well being of the child is all that matters.
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Awww so sweet of you and your wife who Foster kids for years as it's a good deed.
I agree that parenting isn't just about being parents but also they need to handle different things morally, emotionally and financially and give them enough love and care too.
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