DON’T LET ANYONE HOLD THE REMOTE TO YOUR LIFE || RECLAIMING CONTROL THROUGH SELF-WORTH

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Self-worth and self-esteem are psychological phenomenons that we are all familiar with and we know their importance to our lives. Although it is a challenge to find so many people thay have these qualities in our World today due to the lack of confidence or strong-will to face the difficulties of life. As humans, we tend to gradually lose our self-esteem and self-worth when we are faced with problems and they are not effectively handled.

These two psychological phenomenons may look like they mean the same thing but they are a little bit different. I will try to explain the little difference between self-esteem and self-worth so that we can understand what they really mean. Self-worth is what produces self-esteem. This means that you must know your value (self-worth) before it can either positively or negatively affect you. Let me break it down.

Let's say for instance, you have been preparing to give a presentation at your workplace for a couple of months and on the day of presentation you didn't perform up to expectations you may start feeling down and disappointed in yourself. Even your superiors, team members and colleagues may be talking about your bad performance all week and it will begin to tell on your self-esteem.

But if you know your self-worth you would not let it break you down and you would reaffirm that this single performance can't define who you are and your value to your organisation. On the other hand if you don't know your value, you would let all the negative energy and reactions affect your productivity and confidence (for life).

To further break these concepts down let's take a look at some dictionary definition of the two.

Merriam Webster Dictionary defines self-worth as a sense of one's own value as a human being.

The same Merriam Webster Dictionary defines self-esteem as confidence and satisfaction in oneself.

In a simple parlance, self-worth means that you know how valuable you are and you don't let anything change it either the bad experiences you've had in your career, relationship or even the opinion of others. It is that strong belief in your value that nothing can change no matter how strong it may be. While self-esteem on the other hand is simply your feeling about yourself and it can be in two ways - high or low self-esteem. You need to constantly practice healthy and productive habits in your life to develop high self-esteem.

Self-esteem and self-worth both works hand-in-hand. In a situation where your self-esteem is about to fail you and you remember your worth you'd definitely get over the situation with ease. In a marriage, self-esteem and self-worth play a vital role in defining the relationship. There are some (wo)men who were once confident in themselves but begin to lose their self-worth due to constant criticism or bad energy from their partner. When a partner is not being appreciated or is being sublty controlled in the relationship it will lead to low self-esteem which will show in her dressing, expression and so on. In other to avoid developing low self-esteem you must first discover and know your value.

In no situation should you allow the opinion of others define you. They have the right to think whatever they want to think but it is in your power to not allow it affect you negatively because if you do you are already giving them the remote control of your life.

Well, it may be easier said than done considering the fact that we have feelings as human beings and our emotions can get the better of us (sometimes). However, we should be conscious about not devaluing our self-worth.

Thanks for reading and see you in my next one.

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