It's a personal choice

Abortion is one topic that sits right at the intersection of the heart, body, and reality. It's one topic that people don't discuss lightly, even though the world argues about it loudly. Behind every abortion story, there is a real human being. When we talk about people considering abortion if they are not ready for kids, it's essential to be honest: parenthood is huge, and it's not a journey for one person; it changes life forever. Not everybody is mentally, emotionally, and financially prepared when pregnancy happens.

Sometimes pregnancy comes at a very wrong time, when someone is struggling with school, career, health, or even to feed themselves. In these moments, abortion becomes an option people take because what kind of life can they provide to a newborn? Abortion becomes even more complicated if you look at it through the eyes of a teenage girl who isn't ready or a married woman who already has more than enough on her shoulders than she can carry. We all know that abortion is a sin, but then some situations cause it. I know that some people will say abstention from sex is the best, but what is being projected currently on social media and television is not helping. Join with this gentle parenting that we are learning from the white people.

Imagine a teenage girl who has not figured out her life trying to understand her dreams of where she fits in the world. Then suddenly she finds herself pregnant. There is this fear that takes over her immediately that makes her heartbeat drop: her parents, future, the shame, the judgment from neighbors, family, and friends, and the life she hasn't even started living. She herself still needs raising. For that kind of teenager at that point, abortion is not just a choice but a desperate attempt to protect herself from the little stability she has, to cling to her education, and to avoid a lifetime of struggle she didn't bargain for. She is scared, confused, and thinking about the future she still hopes to build.

Now let me talk of a woman who has 5 children already, and it was by grace she survived the last pregnancy, and the doctor has warned that never should she get pregnant again. She wakes up every day tired of life's struggles, pulling strength from places she doesn't know exist. She juggles bills, schoolfees , food prices, and a home that never stops demanding. Whenever she comes back home, her whole body feels like she was beaten with an iron.

When she finds out that she is pregnant again, it doesn't feel like a blessing anymore but a burden. She feels like she is drowning. How is she going to cope with one more child and the exhaustion that comes with raising a newborn? How will they feed her? She loves children, but love doesn't buy Pampers, nor does it pay bills. Another child will stretch her to her limit.

For women like her, abortion becomes the only option to avoid bringing more hardship to themselves. In both cases, father roles become complicated, as for the teenage girl, the partner might be an immature person like her who can't understand the weight of the situation. As for the married woman, her husband might be a man who wants more children even when he can't feed those born to him already. The fathers in this scenario should be part of the conversation; his feelings, fears, and hopes matters too, but in all the woman carries the greater burden, and it's her body; she carries every pain, consequences, and complication that will follow. At the end of the day, let people choose the path that best suits them.

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