The Attitude of Respect
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Earlier this year, I had picked up part-time jobs as a music teacher in about three schools; Springflower was one of them. My work in Springflower is not about the money that is being paid; it is about the experience; I want to understand what it really feels like to be a teacher. Do not be distracted though; this post is not about Springflower, or about me being a teacher, or about how the elderly man spoke to me particularly. It is about respect, and how people strip themselves of it in their quest to show how powerful or old they are.
I was not in school as early as I should have today, but at the same time, I was not supposed to be in school at all for the day. My intention was just to come, pass information to the student and leave, only to hear this man tell me how he behaved when he was my age without making any attempts to understand why I would behave the way I did. As he was speaking, I respectfully cut him short by telling him that the day was supposed to be my day off. It caused him to realise that he was making no point, and I guess it kind of tampered with his esteem too. That notwithstanding, he would have avoided all of that if he had done things rightly.
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Respect is indeed reciprocal. What it entails is that we respect whoever it is that we come across regardless of age difference or position. That man failed to understand that, and it cost him, or maybe not. In this part of the world, it is no joke that an elder can scold you for not greeting him. You don't for any reason call elders by their name; that is the standard, and that is a good standard. As time changes, and the new generation tends to be less traditional, some elders have learnt to follow the trend of time; but for others, everyone younger than them are their subordinates, and they must treat them like one. Based on this, they also feel the need to speak to them as they please; I guess that was what transpired today.
As an individual, I feel life should be simple; I feel that we do not need to seek respect to get it. I also feel that we do not need to show power to be powerful, and that we are what we are, regardless of how much we show it. If we are able to understand this, then we would also understand that no one deserves to be spoken to in a manner that is degrading or undeserving. In all, we understand how simple life is. If one must be respectful, they must not be in the attitude of disrespecting others. Yet, we must not disrespect others on the basis that they are disrespectful to us. We must learn to make respect an attitude; even when we condemn disrespectfulness, we must learn to do it with respect.
What you did was not respectful, it was rude and hubristic.
Wrong. Respect is earned, not a right. And besides, you did not respect that other person at all, you selfishly cut him off.
Maybe you failed to understand that the elderly man simply wanted some company, someone to talk to as he is lonely. Maybe you should have made more of an attempt to be personable and patient and to hear him out rather than put your needs above his. You're selfish.
And yet you spoke to him as you please without any thought to his feelings or motivation...you didn't even have the courtesy to let him finish speaking. You're ill-mannered.
So you want people to respect you without even doing anything to deserve it? Of course a person needs to seek respect and they do that in many ways including how they treat others around them.
And yet, you brutally cut of a person as he was speaking which he probably didn't deserve.
But it's ok for you to disrespect others.
You look like you're about 11 years old...maybe you should go and learn about life before you start dictating about it to others, and while you're there, learn some manners as well. I feel like you have none.
🤔 creo que hay mejores maneras de transmitir tu desacuerdo. La idea en este espacio es (según creo) ayudar a otros a crecer, no lapidarlos. Y para eso se necesita tacto. En mi opinión, sería bueno que trabajaras en eso.
Quizás preguntas de reflexión harían que tú mensaje fuese más preciso y de impacto. Repito: es mi opinión.
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Que curioso no? 🤔
Ni un simple bot respondería sin argumentos a un comentario solo con palabras sin sentido.
Muy profunda tu reflexión. Pensaré en ello.
Oh! Cierto. Se me olvidaba que no puedo porque es solo un texto de relleno para ofimática.
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Thank you for being blunt with me @galenkp...
This particular one caught my attention, I probably was not attentive enough. I have learnt, and I will certainly do better next time...
You must also consider the fact that the context was not well captured in my writing. I already sensed that I would probably get a long scolding from the man, given that I was not the first person he had spoken to, and I needed to be fast as I had another destination to be at in an hour. On getting to the security office where I was supposed to sign in before entering the school premises, I saw the elderly man with the principal and the admin head; an unusual setting. In my presence, he confirmed from the principal whether or not I was a teacher before turning to me. I do not consider my actions towards him as being disrespectful, at least not in that spot. I was as polite as possible, and I was in a hurry too. That notwithstanding, I do not completely rule out the fact that I might have been wrong.
I agree with you @galenkp, but respect at the lowest level can be directly synonymous to being polite, and I think everyone should be polite to one another. The kind of respect that should be earned should be at the level of admiration. I might be wrong, but this is the way I understand life.
And you think cutting him off was polite?
I think not.
Now it depends on how you understand the term respect; as for me, I was polite, and I was respectful too. I do not expect you to completely understand since you were not in the scene, but when I tell you that that man was going to scold me, I was certain of that. I simply had to leave that place as fast as I should if must meet up with my activities for the day, and that was what I simply did.
Or would you prefer me hearing the long sermon he had for me rather than attending to my job? Like I told, I had to be in another destination in an hour...