Marriage Preparations and Family Pressures

Marriage Preparations and Family Pressures

I think one of the hardest things that can happen to a man is to be unemployed for a few months while preparing for marriage. Fortunately, thanks to my job and the few dollars I had saved, I was able to survive these months well.

As you can imagine, material things were not difficult for me. My friends and my savings helped me. What was really difficult was what the family and people around me said or did not do.

Honestly, I think the most difficult thing when getting married is the relationship with the family. You are trying to build your own relationship from scratch and the moment you explain it to your family, it's like the relationship is no longer yours.
It is no longer your own and it becomes like a shared relationship.

I think managing relatives and family is more difficult than managing yourself financially.

Relations with Families

The most interesting thing I have noticed so far is how much our families interfere in our lives. I live separately and I live on my own, but despite that I realized that one of the most important things in a relationship is my relationship with the other person's family and at the same time I have to keep my distance from my own family.

Expenses Before Marriage and Expenses When Establishing a New Home

These kinds of things, especially in financial matters, people in a relationship need to be very careful. Even eating and drinking what you want can sometimes cause stress. I know a lot of people who gain weight or lose weight due to premarital stress and do not fit into the clothes they buy.

That's why we need to be more respectful and more understanding to each other when we have financial difficulties. Maybe we may not buy the things we need, but do we really need that item? It may be necessary to question these things.

Our Families or Community Deciding the Life We Live

I have seen very clearly that a lot of the expenses are because of the families. This makes me a little bit angry. Also, the ridiculous expenditures made because of traditions and environmental pressure make me a little angry. Because it is not fun to deal with people while we are building our own life.

Maybe I want to go on vacation in x place and see y places instead of buying the items mentioned. But unfortunately, because of this unnecessary pressure, we cannot live the things we want and we get into debt.

Anyway.

I hope you can do the things you want to do when you get married, and that others don't force you to do things you don't want to do.

I haven't written for a long time so I wanted to share.

Thank you

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