Dear woman,

For the sake of what you hold dear, have a source of income before you meet your knight in a shinning armour, and for no reason should the income cease just because you got married, except you decide to stop working on your own.

You should avoid being completely helpless when it comes to taking financial responsibility of yourself if the situation warrants, and for no reason should you sacrifice your means of livelihood for your marriage.

It's been over a month trying to rekindle a love that’s been lost since God knows when. I am not trying to make them fall in love again, but I’ve been trying to make them see reasons why they should make this work out, but it seems like the hatred the husband has for his wife now is one that can’t even let him see her anywhere close to him.

The situation is that of two women whose husbands stopped them from working but would verbally abuse them for just staying at home watching the TV but would leave out the chores and the tending they’ve been doing to the kids.

One of them got frustrated and eventually got a job, but then, the husband had issues with her working. They fought it out, I mean beat each other up because of that issue before the husband finally agreed when people interfered.

The other woman, her case is difficult. I’m so sad on her behalf because more than the verbal abuse, there’s the financial abuse, emotional abuse, and domestic violence to top it all. And the sad part? She’s just 29 years old, and with three kids.

I wrote earlier about how her husband sent her out in the middle of the night with her 8-months old toddler and we had to find a way to find her a place to stay for the night. However, I didn’t mention that I and two other people went to their flat to see if the husband would at least listen to our plea and let her back in because of the dangers of the night, but we were met with hostility. He didn’t even come out to us, so, we returned home to sleep, hoping to see him the next day.

One of us saw him, and pleaded with him, and he said, “it was over”, but he has refused to speak with his wife for over a month now. He avoids his wife when she’s close by and picks a fight every time insisting on “her returning to her father’s house”.

This is man that his wife sold her sewing machine which was her major source of income for just to pay his medical bills when his family failed to turn up for him. This is a man that would steal her money when she tried to establish a business for herself claiming “it was his wife’s money”. This is a man that the woman nearly died birthing his last child. This is a man that she sacrificed her 20s for because they got married when she was 20 years old.

It aches me to the bones that I do not have any help to render for this woman. This is a time I really wish that I have a lot of money so that I can find her an apartment and get her the things she needs because every day, she cried, she suffers, yet there’s no help in sight. There’s no money coming for her from anywhere, and she has no one to call for help because this man had earlier blocked her from everyone, she could call a friend.

The worst part? The brother of the husband now disrespects the wife that he wanted to beat her up some days ago, yet the husband watched and said nothing.

Dear woman, I’m publicly pleading. Do not ever allow yourself to be stranded even in marriage. I’m not saying you should not love your home, no, I’m only saying that even as a woman in marriage, you should be able to live a comfortable life on your own if the situation arises.

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