Her Strength in Grief Became My Greatest Lesson: LOH #260

I would never forget this advice I got from a woman I listened to on YouTube when she narrated her grief process and how she was able to overcome it early enough. I couldn’t believe anyone could go through such pain and still be able to cheer up so quickly, and her advice got to me so hard that it has stayed with me ever since.

This woman is one I would call a strong woman who stood up for her faith and kept moving. One thing I like about her is the fact that she’s a true Christian and a child of God who came out to share her process of dealing with grief. I actually agreed with all she said, and I would be sharing with us.

This was her experience — so traumatic. She said she lost her father and three months later, her brother was assassinated in his home. It was a shock to her because she still spoke to him before the incident, and how it happened so fast was something that left a big hole in her heart.

She was still trying to get over her dad’s death, and then another death came unexpectedly to someone she loved so much.

She said she couldn’t process everything or understand why her brother was killed like that. So, when her friends heard, they all came together and stayed with her. Even people whom she didn’t recognise came around and extended helping hands to her and the family.

Some would be in the kitchen to prepare food for her, those who would keep her company, making sure she wasn’t overthinking, and others who came and went with different foodstuffs and supplies. They all did this so she wouldn’t lack anything, especially emotional support.

They also took her out to have fun so she wouldn’t be alone all by herself, and for the next few months, she was able to overcome grief because of the good people who came around.

As I watched her talk, I realised that we all need people who would be there to provide all kinds of support when we need it most and not leave us alone to wallow in pain and depression. Her advice was that we need to surround ourselves with godly people, both friends and family who would be there for us.

Grief is a powerful emotion that, if not overcome on time, could lead to depression and then to someone committing suicide. It might even make one want to take revenge because, for someone like the woman, she could want to take revenge for her brother’s death since it wasn’t natural, but something done intentionally.

In the process of getting revenge, she might have incurred other problems in her home and life. Besides, as a strong Christian woman, it wouldn’t have been good to take that step, especially when she has people looking up to her.

One thing I took away from that was that, as Christians, people are always watching. We are the Bible they read, and when things like this happen and we are found doing the wrong thing, how do we come out to shine the light on others?

I know it could have dented her reputation if she had gone that way, and those who came around to support her wouldn’t have done so.

This is another reason why we need to be careful of our actions and remember that grief will happen, but how we overcome it depends on the people we are surrounded by.

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