My friendship story: When life happens and people change.

So, there was this lady, we met while working for a TVS Keke dealer, and from day one, it was as if we had known each other before. It wasn’t forced and no pressure, it was just so natural. We understood each other and we were so close that people at work started whispering, thinking we were something. But it was never like that.

She stays with her mum and siblings and their house wasn’t far from work, so most times, after closing hours, I would just branch by. It wasn’t a daily routine, just once in a while, we would just talk and gist till it was time to go home. We were so close, she close earlier but she would still wait for 2-3 hours till I close too.

But when the change came, it didn’t came at once. The cracks and breaks happens slowly, and then it widened. Then came the time when the space between us was too wide to ignore. It started when she gained admission, I was genuinely happy for her. We had talked about school a lot, because I was a student as at then too, at my final year and still working. So, I celebrated with her, I just didn’t things would shift or change.

Then, the time came, she was always busy, shes occupied, she does not want to be bothered, that was all the message she was passing across. She hardly pick my calls, she rarely respond my texts, what was effortless then now became something hard. At a point I started making excuses for her, maybe she's just trying to focus and all, this is a close friendship, I shouldn't let go that easily.

But then I kept thinking something, before Favour, I was a student too. I had been in school and working while we were friends, and I never made her feel like she was any less needed. I still showed up, still cared, still made time and valued what we had. So why is it different now....

It hit me hard, not that I felt entitled to her, but its just that I never imagined this version of our friendship. And I must tell you, I tried, I really did, even before things turn out this way and even after, I still tried, I sent messages, checked in, tried to keep the connection alive, but I was just stressing myself.

I can't keep on holding onto what doesn't wat to be held,so I let go. Not with bitterness nor anger but with understanding, I know my place. I believe as it always does, I mean life, it happens and it doesn’t mean the moments we shared and the bond weren't real, life just happens.

Though, I still think about her sometimes, not in a I wish things were different way though, cause I knew I never offended her. After a long time, she wished and posted me yesterday which was my birthday, she wrote "bff....and I kind of hesitated, bff was then not now, well I kind of responded.

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