What Spoils Some Naija Parents ||| Hive Naija Weekly Prompt

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Naija's parents are amazing na when are you bringing home a husband spoils them lol.

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Usually, I don't have reasons to lie to my parents, at least not that I could remember. Possibly because I'm not a good lier, so I rather just come clean from the beginning. I see no point in telling lies to them if I'm going to ends up getting busted faster than I could say Jack!

But something happened two years after my Nysc that left me with no other choice than to tell them just what they wanted to hear.

My parents were no longer having any of my excuses as to why their 28 years old daughter is yet to get married like some of her age mates. My dad is the type that when he wants you to do something he will not rest until you do it. All my effort to make them understand that I needed time to heal from a previous relationship, find out what I truly want for myself and as well find my feet financially proved abortive.

The pressure from them to get married was just too much. Sometimes I hate picking up my dad's calls because I knew it would all end with Are you seeing someone by now? And when he was not doing that, he was putting pressure on Mom to speak to me. I hated this so much, it was making me lose concentration on myself, as well as on my business. Like why can't they just understand I wasn't ready?

At some point, I knew I needed to take some drastic steps to buy myself time when I noticed they start visiting prayer houses to find out why I wasn't married.

At this point, visiting home from Lagos during the festive period became difficult for me because I knew what their expectation was. And since I wasn't ready to rush myself with just any available relationship so I devised a grand plan with a friend. This happens to be the biggest lie of my life, but given the situation I was in then, I will do it over again just to make them happy and as well buy myself time till I'm ready.

There was this very close friend of mine, that we both based in Lagos and he happens to be visiting our hometown in 2018. He thought I was joking when I told him I wanted to hire him as my fiance to be presented to my parents. He called me crazy and laughed out loud. But after a while, he agreed to play along.

When we got to my hometown, he met with my parents and they liked him. After getting to know him, he was told to bring some of his family representatives as soon as he is ready for a kind of family introduction.

After the whole thing, we went back to Lagos but as faith will have it, something wonderful happened on that journey.

My now husband and I reconnected again during that period, even though we had always known each other for many years and that was the beginning of a story that leads to our marriage life as we tied the knot in 2022.

Along the line, I had to come out clean to them, apologize, and ask for their forgiveness, and of course, they forgave me with all their heart.

Even though they always strive and want what is best for us, Parents need to learn not to pressure their children into marriage. It has led some to live a life full of lies or in the worst cases pick the wrong life partner due to a lack of patients.

This is my entry into this week's hive-Naija community writing prompt which can be found here.

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Wow, this really made me laugh. Hiring someone to be a fake lover is quite hilarious to me and I understood there was nothing you could have done to get them off your neck at that time.

Imagine going home for a celebration and all you have ti talk about is when you are bringing a man to the house. That was a smart move and in the end, things worked out as you reconnected with the man who became your husband.

Dad and mom didn't have a choice than to forgive you, they will understand to had to do something to turn off the pressure.

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I tell you, they were really on my neck. I just had to think of what to do.

Thank you for reading me and for your beautiful comment.

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A great lesson to be learned from your story, having a first-hand experience makes it much better. (Not that lying part though)

Now you are passed that stage, and have a lesson or two to teach those who are still in it.

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I never wanted to lie to them, but they left me with no choice lol.

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This really made me laugh. But I do understand how that pressure can lead us into lying to our parents and how much children do not want to disappoint their parents. That is quite the lie but eventually turned around. Hehehe

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This is something that happens in every African home. They expect you to bring someone because you have reached a certain age. They don't want to understand your reasons but theirs, as if they will follow you to live with your husband. I don't like such pressure and I believe when the time comes, things will happen freely and smoothly.

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Our parents don't want to understand, in fact, that was the only time they ever put pressure on me cir anything, as in other decisions of my life i'm always ahead of them. It wasn't funny at all

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Of course, they will be shocked at first when you told them the truth. Lol

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They just laughed it off, because they see me in another serious relationship.

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I always thought it was the guys who do the hiring and today I realized the both gender do.

Sometimes pressure from family can be so frustrating especially for ladies. Glad you finally brought joy home.

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Hahaha, it goes for both genders. Our parents get no chill at times when it comes to settling down hehe. They always can't wait to hold their grandchildren.

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That's true, mum as being preaching that to our ears but everyone is pretending not to hear. We never get money, who wan come go put himself for self-depression

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Hahaha, if money no dey, depression go dey o.

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😂😂 that's funny, how did you even get to think about hiring a friend as an undercover fiance, lolz.

Parents especially mothers love to pressure their children about marriage especially when they see their friend's children getting married or there children's friends. That lie was really big and might escalate if fate hadn't brought you to your spouse.

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Hiring a finance? That's hilarious.. hehehe, but then I understand your plight. It was also a smart move to buy time while waiting for the right person for you, however I must say that your parents gave you so much pressure on this subject. What if you fell into the hand of a wrong man all in the name of marrying at a certain age. All in all, I am happy for the reconnection. Thanks for sharing

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However I must say that your parents gave you so much pressure on this subject. What if you fell into the hand of a wrong man?

I never expected that from them, and it wasn't funny at all, to the point I started to dislike speaking to my dad. I am just glad it ended well for me.

Thank you very much.

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Nigerian parents never disappoints, just like we see in the movies. The pressure was way out of this world.

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Wow such a beautiful story, am glad you are married now. Our parent wants the best for us but they make their push in a wrong way that could lead to a life disaster. Parents should focus on creating a supportive and open environment where their children feel comfortable discussing their thoughts and feelings. Living a happy single life is better than a frustrated and wrong marriage although the single sisters wouldn't know this. Trust me its better.
But you took a big risk, what if your parents knew your friends family? Big wahala 🤣🤣🤣 am glad it ended well. Thanks for sharing.

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Hahahha, that my friend came from a different state from mine, it kind of made the whole plan easy. And yes, it was very risky.

I figured my parents began to see that I was becoming too dependent on myself, I guess while they were so pushy.

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Lucky you! Am happy for you. Thanks for sharing once again

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Hehehehe 🤣 I have seen that in a movie but I never thought that anyone could try that out
Me I don't even go home again until I am ready to settle down if not my mom's ringing tunes is now go and get married, when are you getting married? You are getting older.

So I am tired of listening to the music as if I can buy the husband in the ShopRite
But am happy for you guys

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Oh my God, your comment got me rolling on the floor !lol

Actually, I got my idea from a movie hehe. I just get to do that as I could not take it anymore of their pressure.

And don't worry, I'm sure yours will end well too.

Thank you very much for stopping by do have a lovely evening.

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Wow... It's truly a big lie. What if your friend later got interested in you, would you have rejected him?

Anyways, it's good thing that you found your man...and also good the ypur parents forgave you deeply

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What if your friend later got interested in you, would you have rejected him?

Hah hah, I have been waiting for someone to ask me this !lol. It won't have worked, as we both shared different religions and you know how complicated that can be at times within the two families.

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Ya .... You are right...

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Heheh... No one deserves to be pressured into marriage honestly.
This is because when you are pressured into it, you will be pressured out almost immediately you entered.

It is something that we all needs time to convince ourselves that we are with the right person.

You did well I will say atleast to save your head, that was a smart Move, hehehe
Brainy Madam 😂

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Hahaha, thank you very much dear friend. We should always know we wanted a married before diving into it.

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The idea to hire a friend as your fiance must have come from watching too many Nigerian movies, I guess. I have watched movie scenes like this where a woman had to do the same as you did because of pressure from their parents.

I am glad that you have met the Love of your life now, and now married. Wish you the best in your marriage.

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Yes, I got the idea from a movie I watched lol.

Thank you very much for stopping by and for your thoughtful comment.

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Lol the things parents make their kids go through, it's like we have to go hunt for the right guy and bring him home just like that.

I must say that hired boyfriend was a great plan he seem to have really known his assignment to pull it through to a point they started asking him to bring his family.😅

It's great that it all ended well, and you can look back and laugh about the lie!😀

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