Be genuine, be thoughtful

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Ever wondered some people who says they care for you, they end up hurting you indirectly, they make fun of you, they let things slide by saying it's a joke. In my daily life I've encountered such people pretending as they are clueless of their action and pretend like they did nothing wrong.

It took me long enough time to realize this thing. Some people will never like you no matter what you do. People will dislike you without any reasons. They can't even give a valid reason for hating on you. They will say something offensive in a funny way to bring you down. It's a common thing it will always happen with someone without them realizing it. For example I'm gonna share one of my stories about an incident.

One day, I was with my friends at the school and we had extra curriculum and that was a singing class. There was a new comer she joined us that day, and we welcomed her happily. Her name was Aisha, after some days she started to ask me for notes and I gave her without any doubts. But in a particular day I came to know that she was spreading a rumor about me being a bully. She also added that I made her do my homework, after knowing this all, it was frustrating, when I confronted her she denied the whole incident.

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After some time I forgot about it and she started to become more friendly with me. I was happy that I've found another good friend as it's not easy to find a true friend. During summer picnic we were all together and having food. Then one girl was praising about me being tall and smart and it felt great. However, Aisha then pointed out that despite my height and intelligence, I've blurry vision and she began to laugh. Her way of talking made me feel a bit uncomfortable.

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I confronted her but she said if I can't take a joke then she doesn't want to be friends with me. I felt that maybe I was overreacting and apologized to her right away. Few months later again I heard of a rumour about me and the one who was spreading it was none other than Aisha. I was confused that she behaves well Infront of me then why she does it? I asked her the same questions she said I'm full of myself she doesn't talk about me at all, as I didn't have any proof I could not do anything about it.

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Things were getting out of my hand then I decided to break off our friendship as she was very toxic. I had to leave that school because she was badmouthing about me a lot and it was not a good environment for me anymore. Aisha never admitted the things she did and she only made me apologize in the end. I felt bad that why did I let that happen to me? Even though I could clearly see what she was doing. Actually, I was never thoughtful about myself I only liked to give but never expected anything in return. That's how people took me for granted.

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I think that everyone should be thoughtful about themselves, they should never let someone else put themselves down. If I was thoughtful about myself before then this situation might have been avoided. I see my old self and realize that with a little more thoughtfulness, things could have turned out differently.

I think being genuine is very thoughtful and everyone should stay real. If I don't like someone I don't fake it around them. I will leave but I won't be gossiping about them with others. I think it's not worth it, and yeah you can say that I'm very thoughtful about my actions.

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