The power of saying "NO"
Hello hive familyđź‘‹
I'm so excited to write my second hive reach out post,
actually most time in life we do find lt difficult to say no to different kind of request which is asked of us.
This become even harder when is come from close neighbors, relatives, or even those in higher authorities. Sometimes this request is beyond our capacity, but sometimes fear pushes us into saying "yes" to what we never wanted.
I can remember a settle time when a close friend was trying to convince me on investment deal that didn't feel right at all.
The investment was promising high return, at first I struggle to say NO to him, this because most investment promising high return are scam; I might even fall victim, but Because I don't want him to think I wasn't supportive— so I told him that I will think about it, so when he asked again I told him NO— I'm not interested, i have no confidence on it,
I adviced him but he never listened..
After a long while the investment crashed and those who joined faced serious regrets. Saying no save me from stress, regrets, and loss.
I’ve come to understand that it is always in our power to decide what happens in our daily lives.
As the saying goes: “You can force a horse to the river, but you cannot force it to drink water.”
When we fail to say no, we often end up in regrets — the painful “had I known” moments. But blaming others never solves anything; prevention is always better than cure.
In my own life, I’ve had experiences where I went against my true wishes, where I was restricted from what rightfully belonged to me, simply because of another person’s selfish desires. It took me a while, but I’m always grateful to God for His abundant grace, wisdom, and understanding.
He helped me to see the truth behind people’s pretenses and gave me the courage to stand firm, to go after what is truly mine, and to say No to distractions.
The hard reality is that the people closest to you are often the ones who know your weaknesses. They hold the “keys” to your life secrets. But even then, I believe we are all perfectly created with a unique purpose and gift. No one in this world looks exactly like you or shares your exact destiny — not even identical twins. That means you must live your own truth and choose what fits your personality best.
Here are the habits that keep me courageous and gives me the strength to say No.
Believing in myself and trusting God always.
God is the Creator of all. We cannot lie to God or to ourselves. Knowing the truth helps me stand firm and gives me more courage.Being a good listener.
By listening carefully, I can discern what kind of people I’m dealing with and what they’re capable of. As the scripture says, “By their fruits, you shall know them.”Self love
I refuse to despise myself just to please someone else.
Through these lessons, I’ve learned that saying No is not about being rude — it’s about protecting your peace, your purpose, and your destiny.
Thanks for reading🙏
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