Hello dear community of @holos-lotus a pleasure to stop by and participate in this Initiative by @damarysvibra talking about seeing yourself in others, that mirror that shows us what we would like or not to be in reality.
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In life you get a variety of people whom you admire, others fall badly or simply ignore them, but sometimes it is inevitable to feel a certain comparison or criticize them, because there are things that we do not accept or do not want in the same way and that generates the need to see what the other has. I can not deny that it has happened to me in both good and bad ways, some have been applied to me in life others have made me understand why the person reacted that way.
In a good way, I have learned to value more what I have, no matter if I lose something material or not, because life is too short to hold on to it, you have to value people, animals, today I am one of the people who cares and loves pets much more, thanks to my dogs and the people I have seen how they treat them and understand why they are attached to them. In the case of material things, after the death of my aunt I understood that when you leave, no matter how hard you struggle to have your things, take care of them and long for more, you don't take them with you, just the only thing you take with you, well I can't say the memories or at least not all of them, because in her case she had Alzheimer's, but the last word or image of the one who accompanies you.
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In a bad way, I would say that I made the mistake of criticizing certain points that seemed to me at the time that it was not the best, but today that I am a mother I understand more certain behaviors that at the time bothered me and sometimes I apply it I imagine by subconscious or as they say you should not say I do not drink this water, because you drink, and well it causes you to do or say something that you saw and criticize someone else. Certainly you have to understand or try to understand why the person does or says something that you think is wrong, no one does things just to do it, there is always a reason, something that generated it or made it so.
I remember when I was younger I used to say that I didn't want to have children for fear of being like my father, it bothered me to behave like him and hurt my child, however, I learned that if there are patterns that one can unfortunately repeat, but it is not indicative that one will continue it, I do not deny that at the beginning when I decided to become a mother I thought a lot about it for fear of being guided by that pattern, But I accepted that I am me, with my defects and my virtues, that I must learn and not let myself be guided by how the other is, who did not have an easy life and should have said to be a better person if it is the right thing to do, but one can not command others, I just would not say accept it because doing so would be like letting them do bad things, but understand them and let them live their lives and let you continue yours.
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Life is a mirror, where you think you will not go through something it seems, and it shows you that you can get through, you should not judge, just understand and let go. Accepting yourself also contributes to this.
Thank you very much for reading it. I hope you like it. If you have any comments I'll be glad to answer and if you want to know more about me I leave you my:
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Un post hermoso, reflexivo y humano.
Que lindo gracias por compartir lo mucho que has aprendido y lo grandioso que guardas en tu corazón
Muchas gracias por tus palabras! de verdad agradecida. Saludos y bendiciones! 😊