Overcoming the motivating factor

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If we look at the biggest motivator for human action, it's fear. It's true, much of what we do, or don't bother to try, is fundamentally conditioned only, or almost exclusively, by one feeling: “fear”.

It seems like a contradiction to overcome something that motivates, but it's what we have to do. It ends up being a factor that motivates us, but not to act or think the way we might think.

Fear is one of the protections we have, and it's very valuable for our survival. But it also ends up leading us to do many things that we wouldn't do if we had more discernment and if we reflected a little more.

Nowadays, the opinion of others is almost instinctively taken by us as something more “valuable” or more “right” than our own opinion or even experience.

And where does this importance, which is attributed to it almost unconsciously, come from? In an almost unnatural way, we are bombarded with thousands of stimuli at a breakneck pace. Some of the most complex stimuli are nothing more or less than opinions, or even experiences that other people have had. We look at our lives as being permanently incomplete, or that we need to do something “different” in order to achieve a different result, which we think is better than what we've achieved so far.

And this need to always look for something “better”, with the “insecurity” in ourselves, and in our mental processes and judgments, leads us to accept the opinions or comments of someone who may not even know us personally, so that they are taken as an absolute truth for us.

Many of our decisions are “clouded” by this “fear”. We don't move forward. We're afraid of being disappointed. We're afraid of thinking differently from our “group”. We're afraid of not being accepted because we think or act differently.

Today I woke up feeling tired. It was probably due to the previous days, as well as last weekend, when I had two days completely filled with work. I'm going to take the rest of the afternoon to myself and try to do some tidying up around the house.

The fear of taking time for myself and thinking I'm not doing it right won't be on my mind today.

Thank you for reading my little daily reflection.

Cheers🍀

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