“Are you willing to wait?”

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There are two very simple things that can transform any personal relationship and elevate it to a level that will surprise you.

Only two elements are really essential for this to happen. And we can put these two elements in the form of questions.

The first question we have to ask is:

“Are you willing to wait?”
“Is the other person willing to wait?”

The second is:

“Are you willing to heal?”
“Is the other person willing to heal?”

In a relationship, a healthy relationship is one in which both partners wait and are patient while the other heals. And both are healing while the other waits, or patiently waits.

You will be doing the work while the other waits for you. And they will be doing their work while you wait for them.

This is what a real relationship looks like. It is a two-way street and a respect for what the other needs, or what the other provides when we are in need.

Healing is not always a necessity, but it can be seen as work, and waiting is not always a necessity, but can also be work for the other person, or for ourselves.

When there is openness in telling the other person and yourself how you feel and what you need; or when, on the other hand, you are able to listen to the other person to understand what they need, there is a channel of communication that is maintained between the parties.

There is a desire to improve the other person, not by transforming them, but by creating the conditions for them to heal. As in the example given in this case, where time is a need that is met.

And in terms of directionality, we understand that it is like a saw... it goes back and forth. It is not just one side that works, and the other that watches that work. There is coordination. Sometimes, there is no coordination, and that is when challenges arise. It is not necessary to throw in the towel right away. Challenges also serve to help us grow together, in our relationship with others and with ourselves.

We should not miss these opportunities and think that everyone has a relationship like the best image on social media.

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