It's a Matter of who loves you and not who you love

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The few years I've lived on this earth, one of the lessons I have learned is that you should never beg for love. Love is something that should flow naturally. I have heard people say that this life is not normal, that you barely see someone who will love you the way you love them. That means it is hard to see someone who will love you back the same way you love them. Many people's love stories are like this. They're never lucky in a relationship. From one relationship to another is full of crises upon crises. They end up lovíng someone who, in turn, treats them like trash.

This is the reality that we're facing as humans. The journey of love is one of the journeys in this life. It is complicated and also difficult to understand at the same time. Very few people are lucky in this journey. Lucky in such a way that they found who they love and the person, in turn, loves them back with no strings attached.

I have realised in this life that if you are at the mercy of someone, you do everything possible to please the person because you are afraid that the person will leave you. In the end, the person will still leave. Never beg for love; if you do, you'll keep on begging, and you'll soon be left behind.

I have realised that as a woman, you enjoy a relationship with someone who loves you and not the other way round. If you love someone and he doesn't love you back, you'll definitely suffer. A man who loves you will do everything possible to keep you. He will go the extra mile to make you happy. But there is a twist here. It is also very difficult to commit to a man you do not love. You cannot submit and wholeheartedly pour out your heart to a man you have no feelings for, even if he does heaven and earth for you. This is the complexity of love we've found ourselves in.

Concerning this kind of issue, I would suggest, based on experience, that it's better to be in a relationship with the person who loves you than the one you love. There are so many advantages to being in such a relationship. At first, you might be uncomfortable but in the long run, you will see yourself adjusting gradually to loving the person.

As a woman, never make the mistake of loving a man; if not, you'll suffer. You'll do everything possible to please and to keep him. In the end, he will leave you to the one that his heart longs for. He will stay for the benefits he derives from you, and when he's no longer enjoying the benefits, he flees.