RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS

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I like to be sure about a person before I get into any commitments with them. I try to know much of them during the talking stage as best as I can. However, I know that it's not always the case that a person shows all of themselves in this stage considering that they are all sweet and kind and present and all the other good and seemingly faux appearances that they put up.

Thus far and from learning about relationships, one of the things I can take and what I would be unable to tolerate is disrespect. I believe so much in mutual respect. I am one who shows respect to all, both the young and old and I consider it only proper that I be accorded in same measure. I do not disrespect myself and would never tolerate anyone who faintly shows signs of disrespecting me. For a relationship to blossom, it's important that both partners show themselves mutual respect. Away from all the banter and laughter and showing ugly and naughty sides, it's important to never be condescending toward each other.

Another red flag for me is abuse. Abuse could take diverse forms, be it physical abuse, emotional abuse, or whatever else. I grew up watching my parents show themselves love in spite of whatever squabble that they may be having. I never saw them use vulgar words on each other , nor did anyone raise their hands to the other irrespective of how intense the arguments and issue were. I've seen firsthand, I have read, and I have heard how abuse have broken individuals, reducing their self-esteem and feeling them with self-doubt and low self-confidence. There's been cases of people who have become shadows of their former selves. There are others who have died from abuse and some who only made it out by a strand of their hair. I am fragile and so have learned to be courteous. Therefore, I expect nothing less from anyone with whom I call a lover.

Thirdly and finally, another relationship red flag would be poor communication. This one irks me to my bones. I can not be with someone who lacks proper communication skills. Someone could just go MIA on me and blame it on work or whatever. What happened to a quick call or message beforehand? I sincerely also don't appreciate those who can't express themselves. I want my partner to be able to communicate 'whatever' with me. It's how we get to know ourselves and familiarize ourselves.

The above three top the list for me, and I just can't deal with a person in any of the categories stated. That's it for this post.
Until next time...BYE!

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