Not All Women, But... A Few Things We Wish You'd Stop Doing

It's worth noting that this is in no way written with the intention of bashing women; it's far from it. In fact, to make this understandable, I can tell you for a fact that I've met and known many amazing women from all walks of life—mothers, friends, sisters, cousins, superiors, colleagues, and the like, who all went on to shape and impact me in one way or another. However, since this prompt is asking about women from a man's perspective, I'd love to keep it two and speak from my personal experience, so without further ado, below I'll be talking about things some women do that can be a bit peeving.

Saying 'I'm fine' when it's obvious they're not: I remember some years back when I was still dating my ex, there'd be occasions when she'd obviously be angry, probably because I did something wrong or she perceived I did. but rather than tell me what is wrong so we can iron it out as adults, instead you'll hear her say something like, I'm fine, nothing is wrong, but you can only believe that at your own risk, because every single interaction would be tense until something finally pushes them to speak up. I've had similar issues with other women around me, being a man I like when someone is direct, just say it when something is wrong, not beat around the bush and create unnecessary tension, when speaking up would have saved us time and energy.

Overanalyzing everything: I remember I once picked a call from my cousin and told her I'll call you later, and by the next time I called, she was like, "Don't you want me to meet her? and I'm like, Who? Apparently, she thought I was with a lady. Another time my girlfriend called, and I told her the same thing, only for her to be thinking within herself that he's probably with someone else and that's why he said he'll call me later. Why can't he talk to me in the presence of those he's with? It's just ridiculous how some women think and analyze a simple thing. I guess it's high time some of them understand that not everything is a hidden message, and overanalyzing things can create tension where there shouldn't be one.

Comparing me to other men: this is one I really dislike and which often gets on my nerves; you'll hear things like, Can't you see what Mr. A did for his girlfriend/wife? It's annoying when I hear such statements; of course, every man wants to give their woman the best of everything, but they'll do it according to their own capacity, so when your woman compares you with someone else, it can be a pain in the ass. I remember I once told my woman to probably go and date the guy I'm being compared with since he seems to be a perfect example of what she wanted.

Testing instead of talking: I mean, how can you just wake up and decide that what interests you to do is to test your man to see how much he loves you? They sometimes do this by ignoring calls, acting cold, and picking unnecessary fights just so they can gauge our reaction; in all honesty, this can be exhausting, or at least for me. I'm not a fan of emotional games; besides, in my opinion, it often makes relationships look like a battlefield, so it's best women learn how to build trust rather than delve from one test to another.

Overall, it's worth noting once again that this isn't about all women, but then we should understand that these little things can go on to make communication and connection harder. Everything should be about understanding, and I know it goes both ways, because we men also have our flaws, just like women do, and the way to get the best out of each other, in my own opinion, is through honest conversations that mend misunderstanding and inspire growth.

All photos are mine.