Harmony of Hearts and Wallets: The Role of Love and Money

Love or Money, this has been a long discussion or should I just tag it as a debate going on in this Gen Z world, this is really an unending discussion because we all know what we are actually looking for in every relationship, this also is one of the things that break and make every relationship. Before I choose one out of the 3 options, love, money or both, let me first talk about how the olden days love look like. I really wasn't opportune to be alive or experience those under the mood tree kind of love but I always love watching the nolloyhood village movies where they do show those kind of love. I do wonder how those kind of love are now going into extinction.

Back in those days, ladies don't fall in love because of money, they love based on the qualities they see in men especially their potentials and they love 100% through thick and thin, I always wonder if such love was built on a solid foundation because it rarely shake. Most time, the crucial part which is money is not always available but the main 5 love language are always there. This five love language are Word of Affirmation which is all about saying sweet things to your partner, Acts of service which is about doing things to ease your partner workload out of love, Receiving Gifts which do contain the finance part, buying gifts and helping out financially, Physical Touch and lastly is the Quality Time which is the most important part because ladies do love utmost attention.

Reverse is the case now in this Gen z world, people do pick money now because they always make one statement, you can't eat love, money is the goal, this statement have really gone deep to the extent that relationship now have no meaning, Ladies see guys with no money as shit, why guys see ladies that are materialistic or love money as Gold diggers. Choosing my answer, it will always be love over money anytime, any day, because when you truly love someone, other things will surely follow and like they use to say, money is like a visitor, it will come and go, so imagine you decide to choose money over love, what will happen when the money is no more there, then there will be frustration and different issues will start rising up.

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I had my own experience as a guy back in school days, I was a lover boy who love sticking with just a lady until she ate my eyes (chop my eye) and I had to hang my boot the second time, even though I was the broke boy type that was still struggling to build myself up financially, I was always there to give the remaining love languages, at least if I don't have money, I have lot of attentions to give, the encouragement and also get gifts or take her out anytime I have cash with me so she won't be left out. But like they use to say, love is never enough, ladies do outgrow love and want other things based on what they always see their ladies friend receiving and ladies pressure, it is always this and that to the point that I started getting confused and with the reaction I started seeing, I started doubting if the love is still there, until she finally showed me the exit door because there is someone better.

The funniest part is that, what if you decided to take it 50/50, going in with both love and money, you will still be sitting on the fence if your partner get broke one day, will you be able to stay and care for him pending the time he will get back on his feet. Also this statement "His money is our money, but the lady money is her own money to spend". I have seen this part and also read different stories on how it break marriages, most times once the man is broke, the lady won't be comfortable taking care of the man or just decided to Lord over him and eventually it is always divorce. Resting my case here, I will say it is good to choose love over money, love covers everything and if you are with the right one, money will surely flow in.