RE: Hive-Naija Weekend Engagement #69- “TRUST ISSUES”

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I feel that this whole matter of having a best friend of the opposite gender while in a relationship or marriage depends on your boundaries, if there is full respect and nothing shady is going on, then it is not that deep at all, But at the same time, how close is too close?

Because let sha not lie o , if you see your partner is always calling or chatting with someone of the opposite gender, laughing anyhow, sharing deep stuff and you are not even carried along, you go feel somehow. It is not about insecurity, it is just normal.

So I’m not saying that people should drop their old friends because they are now in a relationship, but there should be balance and clear communication. Nobody wants to feel like second place to your “bestie.”

I don't have a best friend per say, because I never wanted to keep one because of my Ex husband, he has always been someone I could talk to about anything then. If I doing something or met someone online that I have started talking to I sure was to let him know , especially if there were opposite gender.
And there is this thing called trust , if you do not trust your partners too, you would be having this thought that he or she keeping opposite gender friend is wrong. Well I stand to be corrected @nkemakonam89 @vickoly @jessicaossom @suqueen @justfavour @merit.ahama @jamerussell

What's your say?

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Omo, Respect or not Respect. Trust or no Trust. It is never wise to have an opposite bestie. You can have an opposite sex friend that I am okay. There is no way, at least one among the two must have a feeling for the other.

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😂 , hmmm ok let me say I agree with you, I just can't relate. I have always had virtual friends.
Also I think being a friend to the opposite gender is okay, at least we are human, still with being casual friends there should still be boundaries

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It is easier for virtual friends but if there friends are in the same environment when they spend the much time together. It will have a different story

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Heheh, my dear, you don talk my mind, no one say make you no keep friends of the opposite gender but know your boundaries. You can come and be treating someone like your lover and be telling me it's bestie..

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