Friendship

Friends could either mar or determine one's success. Some fair-weather friends only come around when the going is good. While some friends stick to someone for a very long time, whether for good or bad terms. There are different kinds of friends, but getting to know who is real might be difficult. A true friendship is like a treasure that can't be cast away. They stick to you like the plague.

A true friendship

Whether a friendship is new or old, sometimes we need to figure out if someone is a true friend or just an acquaintance. It takes time to know who is real as some people are very cunny in showing their loyalty. I have seen a friend whom we have been together since the secondary day that betrayed me and I have also seen a friend since my primary school day that has been a blessing to me up till tomorrow. I have also met new people who have gone out of their way to be blessings to me. It is not about how old is the friendship but the intention behind it. Some people only become your friend when they need your help and are quick to 'soil' your name behind your back.

Every friendship is different; some are casual, while others are deep and long-lasting. Knowing how to spot a true friend is important to make sure our social circle is filled with supportive and understanding people who bring mutual benefits. There is this popular saying that you attract your type of people. Although, this might be true in some cases, not at all times. Some people only come to your life for a reason and once such a mission is accomplished, you see them no more.

Identifying a true friendship

A true friend supports you in every way. A true friend will support your dreams and aspirations as they will always be present at every point of your life when you need them the most. They will encourage you and advise you at all times without making you feel bad about yourself or your situation.

Also, a true friend makes your life better by adding value to you. Keeping a friend that doesn't add any possible value is off. Friends like that are not meant to be around you. I used to have a friend who would always tell me how to spend money on things that were not necessary. Any little funds were to be spent without planning on how to recover more or invest. I had to cut her off myself.

Similarly, a true friend will boost your confidence and always help you to achieve your dream even when you are on the verge of giving up. They don't discourage you but rather advise and counsel you on how to go about making a difference.

A true friend is honest and will love you no matter what. In a healthy friendship, both parties involved can be themselves without worrying about being judged or being sentimental. This makes them feel comfortable and safe with each other.

True friends usually spend quality time together and keep in touch regularly. I have a friend with whom I have been together since I was in primary school, he had been in the picture at every stage of my life. He has always been there and never gets tired of our friendship even though it may have to cost him something. Even though he relocated recently to the UK, we still talk almost every day as if he is around. He came back on Friday to get something settled at home, i was the one who picked him up and the airport and took him home. True friends must trust each other and have each other back at all times.