Time Sequence

Flow with the inevitable tide of change and do not look back. Chase it if you will, but do not get attached to it. Do not drown with illusions of permanence or the false comfort of certainty. Stay alive at all cost.

For me, the saying "common sense isn't common" is almost a universal truth etched in the fabric of human experience.

Given that we live in a shared reality, it's presumed that we all experience the same truths, which had lead to the downfall of many relationships, careers and personal journeys.

The logical code of perception is selective awareness.
The logical code of wisdom is embracing contradiction.
The logical code of existence is perpetual transformation.

Logical code isn't law, unless we forget that we invented the code or just surrender our ability to question it.

Wait until the rebel of irrationality tramples on your perfectly planned life. That promotion you were certain of goes to someone else and the relationship you thought would last for a lifetime ends over breakfast.

Thick Fog Of Doubt And Fear

The interesting thing with psychological impasses is that even deep down when you know what's right for you, you're caught in a thick fog of doubt and fear that isn't fully within your control to simply wish away.

A possible reason on why we struggle with these impasses could be our insistence on linearity creates an artificial boundary between what was, what is, and what will be. And then, this boundary becomes a source of much unnecessary suffering.

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We can read every self-help book, understand every psychological principle, and still find ourselves unable to take the actions we know would serve us.

I think what's a bit revelatory during the "moments of psychological impasse" is a caterpillar doesn't gradually transform into a butterfly; it first dissolves into formless potential within the chrysalis.

I mean psychological impasses usually function similarly. They're necessary periods of dissolution before new patterns can emerge.

Parallel Lines Can Meet

I'm part of the camp of people who believe time moved in only one direction, most of us do. Monday becomes Tuesday. Summer becomes fall. Youth becomes middle age becomes... well, you know the rest.

When a childhood friend passed unexpectedly, I discovered something different about time that no physics research had taught me.

In grief, time bent back on itself. Tuesday morning would find me back in a childhood memory, hearing this person's laughter on on my ears as vividly as when I was ten. A random song would catapult me ten years backward into a reality that he and I shared.

From that lens, "time heals all wounds" seemed naive. Time is a cycle. The wound returns, always, perhaps less raw, but still recognizable. The anniversary. The birthday. The holiday without them.

The betrayal when the code we trusted—work hard, be kind, plan ahead—reveals itself as merely a suggestion rather than natural law is also another face of the rebel, showing us the limits of our control.

Finding Your Way

So how do we navigate this complex reality where time bends, logic fails, and psychological fog obscures our clear path?

I think it begins with acceptance. It's true, common sense isn't common. Your carefully constructed plans may be interrupted by the wild unpredictability of existence and knowing what to do during those moments doesn't always translate to doing it.

Then, practice presence. Flow with the moment before you, without clinging to outcomes. When the circle brings you back to familiar challenges, recognize them as nothing other than teachers wearing different masks.

And remember, when the fog is thickest, that it too will pass. At least, the nature of cycles guarantees it.


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