Pregnancy without choice

A man wrote in to a program sometime ago about his girlfriend who wanted to abort their baby.

According to him, his girlfriend discovered she was pregnant and told him she was not ready to be a mother, so she opted for an abortion, but he was against it. It was his first child, and there was no way he would support her “killing” his baby.

The lady on the other hand, wanted the abortion not because she was financially incapable, but because she felt unready to care for a child. She had plans that would halt because she had a child, so, she chose to go with her plans and get the child out of the way, but the father-to-be didn’t want that, so, he took her to court.

There, the judge ruled in his favour that the girlfriend must carry the pregnancy to term, however, the lady, if she still insists on not being a mother, would pay child support to the man which both sides agreed.

There was one other clause though, on the request of the mother-to-be. She asked that on no occasion should the man ask her to come see the child or anything because she was absolutely not interested in having anything to do with her which the guy also had no issues with.

Unwillingly, she endured carrying the pregnancy to term because she was compelled to, and as soon as the baby was born, she called the father to come pick her up, and she never looked back.

As soon as she recovered, she picked herself back up and continued pursuing her plans while also paying the child support to the father of her child, but she never paid attention to the child because she had made it clear from the start that she never wanted her.

The father started taking responsibility, but one day, he got tired and tried to find a way to get her to even see the child, perhaps she would have a change of mind, so, she approached the court again and asked for more child support to which the lady didn’t argue. She just quietly agreed to pay his request and continued with her life.

Now, the major reason the man wrote in to the program was because he wanted the woman to take responsibility because he was tired of taking care of the child alone. He needed the mother to be there, so, he wanted people to advise him on what to do because there was a written agreement in a court that she was not going to see the child nor care for her because she was not interested in her right from the first month of the pregnancy.

You see, when it comes to topics such as this, I try to avoid discussing it, but since it is the Hive learners community prompt for the week, I will say a few things.

Women are the ones that carry the pregnancy. They are the ones whose body will change, whose entirety will change. I know you may say the men are also affected, you are right, but if there are the financial issues to raise the child, the woman bears most of the brunt because she would be hungry and still try to breastfeed her baby.

If the woman says she wants an abortion, let her have it because that is much better than having a child that she’ll end up hating or regret having because she never wanted her or even tag something like “born by mistake”. So many children grew up hearing these words from their mothers because they were forced to believe that “aborting a child means killing them”, now isn’t having an abortion better than having a child you don’t want and then making their life miserable?

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