Character Development

4 days ago

Hello Hive Learners!

“WE ALL ARE GOING THROUGH A LOT”

Image is mine..

Yes, I agree.

Everyone is in a world of their own and in that world, different problems and obstacles that have to be navigated exist.

One thing in life that is as sure as the sun rising in the East every day is that life can never be void of problems. In the past, when I underwent character development(it's what I like to call the obstacles that I encounter) and it seemed like it was the end of the world and that I was simply going to break to many tiny pieces under the weight of it all, I always asked the universe one question only:

“Why me?"

I always wondered why things seemed to be so difficult for me and somewhat easy for others and this was only from my point of view. It felt like the universe and all its infinite powers were against me and it broke my heart trying to figure out what exactly I did to deserve such harsh treatment.

I was a sad girl for many months.

To add to the wave of sadness that refused to leave, I had to battle anxiety and the fear of missing out, not being good enough and all those negative thoughts that accompany anxiety that all gang up on you in order to make you lose your mind. It made me extremely sad and bitter and it affected my relationship with people, family and friends. I was unable to make new friends because I was scared of many things and cutting people off seemed better.

This went on for many months until I met someone who made me want to pour my heart out and I did and till tomorrow, that was one of the best decisions I made that year. I was able to say how I felt and it felt like a heavy weight left my shoulders and the relief I felt afterwards was immense. I slept like a baby that night.

Luckily for me, that was a friend in deed. He listened to me, gave me advice which has helped me till today and proceeded to provide an actual solution to the issue that was bugging me. Through his help, I was able to solve my problems and through his advice, I began my journey to self awareness.

Looking inwards, I noticed many traits in me that I wasn't very proud of, that were not helping me grow to be the best version of myself and instead were keeping me stuck in a particular mindset that was detrimental to my health in general. I got to realize that in order to be able to fight anxiety, I had to start healing from the inside instead of starting from the outside.

Healing, most of the time, is not always physical.

It took me years to learn that but I am glad that I did eventually learn how to overcome anxiety and it's negative friends.

HOW DO I TACKLE THE PROBLEM?

One thing I have learned from my past experiences is that worrying and panicking about a problem instead of taking active measures to solve said problem will not get me anywhere.

Before, whenever I was hit with an obstruction, I'd panic and worry about all the ways everything could go wrong and I'd spend so much time worrying instead of finding solutions that by the time I'd have calmed down enough to think objectively, everything would have been bad beyond repair.

It was so depressing too.

Now, I have learned to be calm in spite of a raging storm and I have conditioned my mind to accept the glaring fact that where there is will, there is always a way. Always and forever.

And as long as I remain calm and do not entertain negative thoughts or habits, then anxiety has no hold on me. I filter my thoughts, the things I say, and even the people that I relate with because people's traits do run off on other people and I really do not want to be friends with someone whose character traits would drag me back to the black hole that I fought to be free of.

Now, in the face of any problem thrown at me, I make sure to stand cool, calm and collected. It is the only way to think logically when everything else is falling apart around me.