Stay true to yourself, even if it means hating others.

Last few days I am experiencing a very unusual behaviour from a known person. The person younger to me is trying to avoid me in general. Even if he comes across me, he tend to overlook me as I don't exist. Few days ago, I was standing in a shop, that guy saw me while crossing in his motorbike but ignored me. I am really feeling very bad for this unusual behaviour. Moreover that guy was once very close to me. On analysing differrnt situation that developed over last couple of weeks, I concluded that , I get hold of his lies, once and twice and confronted him. This made him to dislikes me, and there were no other hard talk between us. All these happened before shifting to my new address.

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Such behaviour is pretty harsh at first but, I am not feeling sorry, as I have not did any harm. But being disliked or feeling rejected can affect how we feel about ourself. It can lead to low self esteem and self worth, increased stress, and may worsen symptoms of mental health conditions like anxiety and depression. Hatred can also negatively impact the nervous system, immune system, and endocrine system. But now as I found out the real reason, I did not making any efforts to sort out our issues. Untill and unless he realize his mistake and makes his first move to resolve the issue that crops up between us without any verbal talks.

Many people tend to likes and dislikes esch other because of various reason. No one comes to the universe with these quality, It is something which humans learns and develops over their life span. There are various reason that people likes and dislikes esch other:

Social factors : These include physical attractiveness, similarity, familiarity, and reciprocity. For example, we're more likely to like people who like us.

Cultural factors : These include societal attitudes, beliefs, norms, or values that are common to a particular demographic group or population.

Genetic makeup : Our behaviors and preferences are influenced by our genetic makeup, as well as factors in our environment that affect our genes.

On the basis of these attributes, I to develop a taste for disliking certain traits in other individuals.

  • Acting too nice

I read somewhere that "do the good work in such way that even your other hand don't know about". But seems this theory is going haywire. Now a days people pretend to be nice. Thanks to the social media account like #instagram #facebook i saw many users comes us with #reels and #shorts of their good deed done publically. In my opinion such things were done only to garner followers and likes. People may interpret someone who seems too nice as hiding their emotions, which can indicate a lack of interest in closeness and social support. Why to appear to be nice, good deeds never to be showed or publicised in my opinion. I honestly dislikes such traits in human being.

Manipulation

Manipulative people try to influence others' emotions or behavior for their own benefit, and this can be problematic if it's used to deceive or pressure others. Manipulative traits can be harmful and create an imbalance of power in relationships. They can leave the other person feeling anxious, confused, and fatigued. Not everyone are born cunning and shrewed. But many people like manipulate things in their own inter3st, without bothering about others loss.

Here are some examples of manipulative traits:

  • Making someone feel anxious, fearful, or doubtful of their own needs, thoughts, and feelings.

  • A selfish process of controlling people by distorting their beliefs to make them doubt themselves.

  • Manipulators can be very good at drawing others into their emotions. For example, if they're in a bad mood, everyone around them will know it.

  • Manipulators may start arguments for the sake of arguing, or display drastic mood changes or sudden emotional outbursts.

  • Manipulators may cover up their behavior by lying or gaslighting

Arrogance

Arrogant people may believe they are superior to others and act accordingly, which can damage relationships. Arrogant people may try to intimidate or humiliate those who disagree with them. They may also respond angrily to criticism or questioning, even if it's polite. Arrogant people may feel superior to others and claim special privileges for themselves. They lack any sense of empathy. Arrogant people may have a warped sense of themselves and lack empathy for others. Arrogant behavior may mask deep-seated feelings of insecurity. Arrogant people may use toxic behavior to assert their imagined superiority

In my opinion, no individual likes to be disliked, but there are certain situation and behaviour that made people to develop a taste of dislikes. Individual must learn the benefit of love relation and emphasis on increasing humanity.

Peace!!

Namaste @steemflow

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It is true, many people today pretend to be nice for different reasons like manipulating to have followers, but in the end it will be known who they really are. There is a lot of that. Just yesterday I was walking down the street and I saw those things you mentioned, and not on a social network but face to face. It's really ugly to go through that.

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I hate them, people are now making thengoods deeds to be heard loud and making a way to earn money out of it. I feel pity for them as karma may prove wrong for them...

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Everything comes back in this life, everything that is done is a vital principle, good or bad, it will come back!

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If I notice someone ignoring me, I won't even try to find out why. I believe that if you have an issue with me, you should be able to tell me to my face, not playing the silent game and expecting me to guess your intentions.
I know just how annoying that can be!

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I give it a damn when done by others, but when it comes with thebfamily relation then it creates a doubt...what went wrong...but now when I analysed the reason...I remain silent with no action.

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Communication is indisputably one of the numerous tools for navigating through human relationships. It will never make sense to me that someone has a problem with me but would rather put up an attitude than talk to me about it.
I've experienced things like this multiple times and I learnt to stop addressing such issues.

For me the best thing to do in situations like this is to adjust accordingly. You ignore me, I ignore you. Life is not that difficult.

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One thing about those that lie often is the fact they hate it when someone tells them what they said was a lie. We have a family friend that does that a lot and the moment my bro told him about it, he refused talking with us for weeks. But what they fail to understand is that life is more than just a cheap lie.

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