Navigating Differences: How to React When Your Child Chooses a Different Way of Life
Having a child choose to switch to a different way of life than what you initially taught them will be surprising and very difficult to take because it is a life you are not accustomed to, especially when the changes are way beyond your moral standard.
Since I don't have a child yet, let me assume the role of my parents. If I choose to tell my parents that I want to change my religion,. It will pretty much come as a shock for them and they will not first take me seriously. Why is that? Because of how much time they have spent bringing me up in my present religion. It will then later bring a major concern to them because of the sudden change.
It would have been a different scenario if my parents were not spiritual and religious and they left me to live the life we wanted, partaking in our religion. Then they may not be very surprised if this comes to be, but in this present scenario, a lot of feelings may come in, like shock and concern, as previously mentioned.
There is one thing I know for sure: they will not be in support of it, and there is nothing nobody can tell them. The most they will do is keep me in prayer, and I think it will be the same thing I would do if I were in a very similar situation.
Understanding their Point of View
Talking about being in such a situation, for any choice my child chooses to make depending on his age or whether he is already an adult to make his or her own decision, I would try to know the reasons for making such a choice. I will try to understand their own perspective, to see if their point of view is reasonable in any form or not.
At the end, the goal is that my child makes a decision that will not jeopardize his or her future or ruin his or her life. I will do my best to share my point of view, give my advice and leave it to the child to finalize the decision.
I will support the child in whatever decision he or she makes (although not entirely), but I will also still be there to support the child when they come back in need of my guidance and mentorship. All these are under the condition that the child is an adult and old enough to take responsibility for his or her own decisions.
The End Goal
Regardless of what decision a child makes, the end goal is to keep a good relationship with the child. No decision that a child chooses must cause any disparity between a parent and a child, as this will make it a lot more difficult for a parent to caution and guide the child.
It is important to know that gentleness, calmness, and empathy are necessary ingredients in reasoning and seeing the perspective of your child. They are also most important in deciding what approach to use to advise them on the decision they have made, especially when it goes out of line with your beliefs.
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Seriously, you make a great point about the importance of understanding our child's perspective, even if it doesn't align with our own beliefs.
I mean, let's be real, we've all been there - doing something that makes our parents want to pull their hair out. But as long as they know we've got our heads on straight and we're not about to do anything too crazy, they usually come around eventually.
Yeah, true; we have all been there. We just need to know how explain to them so that can understand we know what we are doing.
How you'd react will be based on the child's age and the change the child wants. We ourselve know that our parent can't really force us not to do what we want, this is because they see us matured enough to make decisions of our own even when they are not in full support of it.
You are right, nothing should cause seperation between a child that wants a change and the parents. Parents should still support and care for every child even one who seems to have gotten astray that might not be so easy.
it might not be so easy as it is important so as to be there for the child when in need of support. Thanks for coming around.
You are welcome boss.
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STOPIf we support our children entirely in all that they do, it’s really going to affect them by making them feel like they can always do anything since their parents won’t complain. A child will remain a child no matter how grown he or she is and their opinions or decisions should always be put to check
yeah true... I cannot immediately support a child for an opinion that I do not see right. I will let them know what I think and advice them the best possible way. Depending on the child's age determines whether I can enforce my decisions on them. But I can only give the advice while they make the decisions themselves.
You are right💯. When correction is not done in love and patience, a parent might lose a child totally to an outsider which might later lead to disparity between the parent and the child.
I am glad that you got the point I was making. Thanks for coming around.
Exactly boss
They would be very shocked and might not take you seriously at first because they know very well how much time they've invested in teaching you and bringing you up in the way of the lord.
And yes I literally agree and support this valid point of yours which states that they should pray more about the case rather than forcing or doing any other thing that would make it worser.
I also support that aspect of seeing from there point of view and perspective and not being quick to judge.
I totally buy and agree to this points of yours shared in the post and it's a really nice tip to buy when in such a cretical Situationship.
Thank you for sharing out your point of view about the topic given out as a. Weakly featured edition content to discuss about boss.
It's really nice to see you around again boss and I look up to see more of your amazing contents filled with lots of words of wisdom and words of impact❤️
I am really glad you get my point of view. Thanks for contributing to them. I really appreciate.
You're welcome boss
Perfectly right. In fact I believe every parent should support the decision of the children irrespective whether it fits what they are looking for or not. That is the beauty of a good parent