Phone privacy in relationships and marriages

Every now and then, the topic of phone privacy in marriages and relationships remains an argumentative one. While some people are of the opinion that couples or partners should be allowed to have access to their partner's phone every now and then, others are very much against it because it gives the impression that one partner does not trust the other.

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My opinion is that marriage or relationships should be 100% open, with no privacy. In a situation where there is privacy and a partner cannot access or check their partner's phone, there is no need to be in that marriage because it means one person is keeping a secret that is not healthy for the marriage or relationship.

Sometime last year, while I was in church during a sermon, our pastor hit on this truth so hard and said it plainly that a relationship or marriage where there is privacy will, sooner or later, escalate into serious problems. This is very true, and it is a common occurrence in our world today, just like the current trend where couples who have been married for over a decade get separated simply because one of them tried to break the phone privacy between them. It is so bad.

In my current relationship, I made it clear that privacy should not be a thing. We should have access to each other, and nothing should be hidden. Although I do not check her phone often, I have access to her phone and make use of it anytime I want, especially if I want to use the camera because she has a better camera phone than mine.