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Few years ago, I lost my mum at the time when we needed her most in the family. The death was a shocker to us as we never saw it coming. I had a robust conversation with her that morning and all seem to be well. The only the thing that looked odd that day was that she said she was feeling headache. I didn't give it a touch or concern knowing that she's a nurse. I got to her room to pick up her key with the intention that I was going to play basketball that morning. It's a norm for me to use her car at will. I will do a write up on the step by step process of how we lost her that day. Today's post is centred on the topic I titled "grief"

Grief

Grief is an emotional pain, generally arising from misfortune, significant personal loss or bereavement that causes sorrow or sadness.
Before I proceed,
Permit me to state that our loved ones will not be here with us forever. Whether we choose to believe this fact or not, a time will come when we will bid them goodbye. Such is the affair of what life entails.
When my mum passed, I made a mistake by not having enough time to grief or mourn her demise. Right from the time that I had to deposit her remains in the morgue to the time that she was buried. I didn't create that time to properly grief or mourn. Off course I was pained that she left without saying a proper goodbye. Like I had earlier stated, she left at the time we needed her most as a family.
Few years down the line, my health deteriorated and I visited the hospital for a proper check up. Along the conversation with the physician, I soon came to understand the danger of not grieving ones beloved especially after their demise.

Dangers of not grieving properly

I know you must have been wandering that I shouldn't have bottled it all up. Yes! You are right but listen- when you listen to people who tend to motivate you out of a feeling, you tend to bottle the feeling and the resultant effect might be detrimental to your feelings, emotions, relationships and general well-being. When my mum passed, I knew that I needed to be strong for the family. Every decision from that moment was solely on me as I began to make every preparation to ensuring that the funeral rites are not delayed. I was literally everywhere to ensure that she had a befitting final rites.

When we fail to grief as at when due, it can cause physical and emotional implications.

1. Deep sense exhaustion. You just feel exhausted from any little thing that tend to stretch or stress you. You want to be all by yourself without having to push through any tick or thin life throws at you. 2. Increased risk of depression.
2. Reactions like heart palpitations and tiredness.
3. Sleep disturbance
4. Pain, aches and impaired immune system.
   Etc.

Grieving process can be overwhelming. It is not always easy as it seem. However, it is important to acknowledge and express our emotions at the time in a way that feels genuine to us. Allowing yourself to feel and express your emotions can help one navigate the healing process. There are many ways to get through this process. You can decide to have a personal ritual to navigate the season by writing about the deceased or engaging in activities that honours them.
One can also seek support by reaching out to loved ones, groups and if need be - speak to a professional to help navigate the season.
Moving forward, let's learn to create memories with the living - our loved ones while they are very much with us. Your loved ones includes; Your family, friends and colleagues. Cherish every moment!
May our loved ones stay preserved and blessed.

THANKS FOR YOUR TIME!