RE: The Costly Mistake of Confusing Weddings with Marriage
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Congratulations 👏 you have well written.
Growing up together makes a happy home. Some people rush into marrying a wealthy person, and at the end they can't withstand the storms arising in the union, because their intentions and mindset already was different with no preparation to face any of that.
Again, men and women of our days have so much allowed lust to replace love. They are moved by what they see and not what they need. "I will make you a help, suitable for you", the scripture speaking. That pointed to "need" not wants.
Therefore meaning that, before you as a man begins to make a move in search of a woman for a wife, first ask yourself; " If I find someone like me, who possessed my kind of quality will I appreciate her for those qualities", if No, then you are probably not ready for marriage.
Because, if you can't appreciate someone who possessed your same kind of quality, how do you hope for another person to appreciate you for those qualities? ( Same with a woman ).
Marriage is compatibility, compatibility in a lot of things. That doesn't mean that the individuals have to be perfect No! It means that you need to place appreciation appropriately over everything.
The couples need to develop a habit of exchanging appreciating words to themselves while keeping consistent communication, talking things out where they find fault.
Above all, he who instituted marriage, knows the secret to a happy home. "God". People should go back to the scripture to learn the mind of God towards marriage.
Marriage is a spiritual engagement. The devil will always fight it, that's why there are many breakups and divorces. The devil, deceiving people to move by their sights and not by their mind. Moved by what they see, not by what they need.
I agree with you. Compatibility matters most, but it is not enough anyway. Even the person we claim we love or have the same thing in common with can one day change without any tangible reasons. They say that change is constant in this life.
When they say, "changes are constant in life", that doesn't really include individual behaviors. If your wife or husband eventually changes, then understand that those new qualities you are beginning to see were there already.
Or something must have caused the sudden change. It is in your place to seek to know what has happened.