RE: As Virtuality Seeps into Reality...
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I think a lot of this stems from the fact that we aren’t as supportive of each other as we could and probably should be in regular contexts.
Being seen as a victim is attractive because it leads to certain people blindly supporting you out of whatever insecurities they have about being a good person and not fitting their own standard.
Not saying victims don’t deserve the support, they totally do, but if people were a little more consistent with their decent gestures and support of friends and strangers, it might not make playing the victim such an attractive position.
So I guess what I’m saying is we need to fill the gap in decency given to regular people and victims, not by giving less decency to victims but more decency to EVERYONE.
Also it’s too big a topic for here, but if people learn to focus on what they can actually do in their lives rather than what other people are doing, the addiction to drama disappears. Drama is a big distraction from personal empowerment
And for what its worth, I think my boomer parents messed me up pretty bad but i don’t think complaining about boomers forever is the way to fix it….
Agreed. Instead it often ends up being a contest of who is the bigger victim and the more deserving of attention or who is the more oppressed, at least online, anyway. For the most part we are still surrounded by human decency in the real world. Social etiquette tends to keep us in check that way.
Yes, this is an entire post too! If you find time to write on it please let me know so I don't miss it.
Yes, parents from all generations have messed their kids up pretty bad, but it does none of us any good to blame one generation for it. Ultimately that helps none of us to heal and move on with our lives. I guess that's why I had to laugh at this woman's complaints, because I could talk about much bigger problems from my parents that weren't twisting what they said into what I thought they meant. Ultimately it's my choice as to whether I stay wallowing in victimhood and anxiety or do something about it.
Did you read @builderofcastles recent post on re-parenting the inner child? I thought that was very poignant.
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Trying my best not to feel like a victim today and focus instead on having a good day and getting stuff done!
I’ll check the post out!
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