The broken tie

Greetings!

Coming across people in life has been the greatest thing I have really enjoyed and loved in my life. The abundance of people.that has flooded my life in the time past and even now cannot be measured. Though, I'm a shy person that do not relate with people immediately. But whenever I get along with a person, then nothing more can separate us. Also, I'm an indoor person that will not go out anyhow, unless there's something important to do or attend to.
For many years, I refused to travel with my parents to our country home during the festive season. Going home in those days was a custom among many just to have a communal celebration of various festivals such as Christmas, Easter, Eid fitri and the new year celebration. But then, I chose staying back than travelling. All this pointing to the fact that I'm a reserved, shy and indoor person.

So, going by my type of person as stated above, clicking to people and making friends with them has not been part of me for many years even up till today, but that doesn't mean I don't make friends with people or better still, it's not that I don't mingle, but my my friends comes in a different way which I used to cherish like gold.

Like I said in the last paragraph, my way of making friends comes in a special way. As for me, is either I make friends at work, church or in the neighborhood. But there's always a limit to my making friends and it's those people that are very close to me, maybe sitting or seeing daily that I used to make friends with. This making of friends with them atimes is not deliberate but just come with the our daily closeness which I used to cherish so much.

I so much cherish what friendship is all about or let me say what relationship as a whole is all about, so, I don't joke with it. So, with this, I will like to share a particular relationship that got me emotional and cried. This relationship I'm about to talk about is a boss to subject relationship.

When I got employed in the year 2021 at a public secondary school in ibadan, oyo state capital, I met a man who was my vice principal then. Then, I was joke a newly employed teacher that doesn't know how to navigate his way, I didn't even know how to write a note of lesson then. So, this man would invite everyone of us to his office just to give us a piece of advice which I used to take to my heart and meditate on. Though, there's no real relationship between the man and I then, just a boss to staff relationship was what was in existence. I can even say that I don't like the man because of his approach to things which most of my colleagues do complain about, but because I wanted to learn, I used to take it as part of learning which has later been of help to me in my career. The man was English major, so, I love the way he speaks and that also drew me to him.

So, because of his approach and disciplinary measure to doing things, my colleagues began to withdraw from the man, but I didn't know what kept drawing me to the man. So, I kept going to the man's office every break time just to have discussions. Hmmm! Discussing with the man was always interesting. So, in the course of our discussion, our relationship began to waxing stronger and stronger everyday, he got to know me better and I also got to know him more, i got to know his wife, house and children, we became very close that i took him as a father and a mentor. During one of our discussion, he asked me why I have not got married and I told him about everything most especially my finances but he advised me not to leverage on that but to get married since I'm not lazy. So, he encouraged me and this really helped me in life.

So, as our relationship was waxing stronger, something unexpected happened, though it was a thing of joy, but it caught me unaware and was very painful. What was that, the man whom I have adopted as a mentor, fot promoted to the post of a principal and was transferred out of our school to another school that's very far from our school. Though, he got the transfer letter on a Friday, but he kept the good news to himself till Monday. So, on Monday, he broke the news and on hearing the news, I was shocked but happy at the same time just for the promotion, but sad on the other hand, just because of how I would missed him so much. Most especially, his fatherly and mentorship role in my life.

So, I was not happy at all, and I was keeping myself away from him. I was doing so, so as to adapt to a new life after he might have left. It was so emotional before , during and after he left my school. Then I was only feeling lonely, I was not happy at all, I like this man, but there's nothing I could do, it's a transfer of promotion and it's also from above. So, it took me time to adapt to a new life after him. But I still try to maintain my communication with him even till today.

Not quite long, let me say this month, the man invited me to a marriage seminar program organized by his family. Also, they used the program to mark their 30th wedding anniversary. I was glad to be there. But the happiest thing is that I still maintain my contact with him, not only that, I'm still a part of his family.

Though, he left our school, but we are still in touch thanks to God and technology. Now, I have been building another relationship with another person , but I'm od the believe it will still end the same way. This is because, anyone can be transferred anyday.

Thanks for reading.

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