MY FAMILY, MY TIE

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Greetings!

Family they say is the first and the small unit of a society. This means, family is the base or nucleus of the society. It's the family that form the society. So, if the society is bad, that means it's start from the family. So, for a society to be a good and the best society, the home must be sanitized. A healthy family is a healthy society.

A nation or society cannot exist in isolation, the family plays an important role in the development of the society. As we were being taught in the social studies then, we were told we have nuclear and extended family. While one is immediate, the other is extended or large.

Now back to this week prompt on hivenaija and as we all know that what makes up a family is the father, mother and their children or kids. This means no family can exist without these different characters.

So, since the kids are part of the family, I believe that they must be carried along on the happenings in the family being it good or bad. This is because whenever they are left behind, they cease to be member of the family. Although not everything should be revealed to them as it is. There's some you just brief them just to make them aware of the goings. Not telling them atimes can even put the parent under immense pressure. So, it's good to carry them along no matter how.

Also, carrying or revealing issues to them, doesn't mean you are violating their right or making them to be afraid of what lies ahead, NO! It's just meant to strengthen them for the challenges and task ahead that means if its about struggle and negative issues. But, If its about living large, you also need to prepare their mind that things may not be like this for long. So, revealing things to them is not something bad actually but to strengthen them. It even makes them more matured. There's a saying in my local language that says " What ever you are doing and being kept from your children will surely go into extintion" so, for you to preserve your family heritage, do not keep things from your children.

Hmmm! While talking about not keeping things from the kids, I must also emphasize it that, telling or revealing these things to them must come at the appropriate time. Its should be at a certain stage of their lives so as not to put them under unnecessary pressure. Let me share my experience with you. When I was a kid, my parent always keep deep things from me, but when it comes to peripheral issue, I got to know, but the secret thing, its left to them. But as I was growing up, my dad will always carry along on everything going on in the family, likewise my mum, she would also do the same, so as a result, I got to know more of the issues and used to pray for the growth of the family. There's a particular period that I joined contribution at school. During this time there's nothing, but whenever they gave me money to take transport to school, I will trek to the school and save the money. And when I collected the money, I gave it to my mum and she made good use of it for the family.

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On another occasion, even when things were not so hard as the first one, i used to save any money given to us by our visit inside a mould or wooden ban called (kolo) just to assist my parent when there's need for it, most especially during the Christmas season like this, my mum will just add to the little I and my brother have saved to buy us Christmas clothes, wristwatch and shoe.

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So, I'm for revealing things to the kids in the family, but it must come at the appropriate time so as to safe and protect them from undue mental stress, as this will only help in promoting the family. Do you know that if you don't reveal things them, they can even be a wayward child thinking their parents are okay. Let them no you and what you are doing. Teach them moral and how to live their lives after you are no more.like my dad used to tell me that " we don't know when his or my mum time will come" I.e when they will die, but that i should show love to my younger brother and take care of him. And as God would have it, my dad is still alive , but my mum is dead.

So revealing things to kids is to help them and make them strong. But keeping things will only weaking them and make them a coward. I love my family and here i am today living my life in a matured way. This is because I have been exposed to such life when i was small.

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